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  • DovefromaboveDovefromabove Posts: 88,147
    edited May 2021
    I think some people feel the need to 'come out' because thankfully they can ... because for too many years many people felt entitled to judge others ... maybe one day there'll be no need to come out, but for now there are still too many people who, while accepting that the law has changed, still feel that there's 'normal' and there's 'other'.  

    Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.





  • LG_LG_ Posts: 4,360
    edited May 2021
    Just feel I need to point out that the non-binary thing is about gender identity, not sexuality, so quite separate from who people sleep with (and doesn't equate at all with bisexuality). Anyone bringing up teenagers at the moment will be very familiar with the complexities and terminology, even if falling over regular stumbling blocks. 
    'If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.'
    - Cicero
  • wild edgeswild edges Posts: 10,497
    and I thought choosing a career path was hard enough as a teenager.
    If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
  • B3B3 Posts: 27,505
    I've noticed that one of the big plant companies,can't remember which, says you can pay an extra pound for some magic stuff that will ensure that your plants arrive in a better state than if you didn't pay the toll.
    What is the stuff and why don't they put it in everything if it's that good?
    In London. Keen but lazy.
  • KiliKili Posts: 1,104
    B3 said:
    I've noticed that one of the big plant companies,can't remember which, says you can pay an extra pound for some magic stuff that will ensure that your plants arrive in a better state than if you didn't pay the toll.
    What is the stuff and why don't they put it in everything if it's that good?


    Watering them before they posted would help. Any delays in the post and they arrive dry as a bone. Maybe the magic ingredient is water!

    'The power of accurate observation .... is commonly called cynicism by those that have not got it.

    George Bernard Shaw'

  • B3B3 Posts: 27,505
    That would certainly add weight and maybe increase the postage. You could well be right. They would need to add a pinch of something to the water in case trading standards got on to it, though.
    In London. Keen but lazy.
  • Nanny BeachNanny Beach Posts: 8,719
    was trying to say, I couldnt care less about anyones sexuality, or gender, why do they have to "come out" with it, why not just get on with their life. But not at the detriment of marrying a woman, and pretending, for the sake of others. Its not just me, when I was nursing a surprising amount of women confided in me, (I used to do a psychci clinic) it messed up the women, but they wanted to keep it secret from their friends and family, because they were so upset
  • debs64debs64 Posts: 5,184
    @Nanny Beach I think it was a lot harder to be accepted not so very long ago. There is still a belief that homosexuality can be “cured” and life is still easier for heterosexual people generally so can you blame someone for taking an easier option? I imagine the behaviour you are talking about is a lot less common now and that is a definite positive result. Let’s hope we can get to a society where we are all accepted for what we are. 
  • Nanny BeachNanny Beach Posts: 8,719
    Of course, some people choose to be gay, lets not forget, there are quite a few womaen I know several who have eather been married, then gone to live with a woman, or because of ill treatment by men have chosen an alternative. Yes, I can blame someone, for taking an easier option, my ex husband subjected me to many things, I could not put on here, making me think he adored me so much he couldnt wait to marry me, and it was all a con. He completely messed up my life and my children, 2 of whome are so messed up, on long term sickness benefit with mental issues.
  • debs64debs64 Posts: 5,184
    I am very sorry to hear that you have suffered and your children have been damaged but the view society had in the past of homosexuality was the reason your ex husband and so many others had to live a lie. If we were all tolerant of others the world would be a better place. Your experience wasn’t necessarily the experience of others. 
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