@Nanny Beach I'd either do as Busy Lizzie suggests or ask for the cash up front... but just a thought ... does he have access to any cash? I don't go anywhere to get any nowadays. Could that be part of the problem?
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No,he can't access cash at the moment, which makes situation more , he's a friend, making it more difficult.He recently had second hip replacement,can just walk across a room.Took him for second jab that was a nightmare,was nursing a millionaire years,checked mobility issues,he told me no problems.I get to his house, he's got a ruddy great walker and 2 crutches,had to put my dog crates in his garden,only just got walker in,and I have an astra estate.we have been friends for about 6 years,if not for this it would be easy!
The I buy myself a plant and think,well I could afford that, making me feel guilty for asking.He has carers twice daily, getting him up dressed etc,a cleaner,he says his son 2 miles away pops in very quickly does the main shop.He failed to inform me his dad went back into hospital before Christmas,I was buying papers doing half mile walk, friend thought son was staying at the house I don't because car was never there,no idea what he did with the papers because you can't visit the hospital
If he can't access cash I'm a bit confused about what you expect him to do ... maybe he thinks you're totting it all up and he'll give you a cheque when it reaches a reasonable amount? I know we Brits are supposed to prefer not to discuss, religion, politics or money, but I think on this occasion you have to steel yourself to have that conversation. If he's not losing his marbles he must realise he owes you money ... if he is losing them then you need to work something out with his son.
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Presumably he has a cheque book? If not, have a word with his son about the expenditure and ask if he can either take over or reimburse you for all past and future errands.
It is quiet here today. Very gentle breeze and slow moving clouds which have brought us a couple of showers. If the current forecast is correct we should have had 7mm by bedtime tomorrow so just enough to lay the dust but not the good soaking they were forecasting a couple of days ago. After that, sunny and dry again.
Cave sorting later this pm then, after some admin I need to do. Nothing too energetic after a bad night last night. Good job I already have a whole, spatchcocked chicken marinating in spiced yogurt for our dinner and there's a big, home made naan in the freezer so just need to sort out some veggies.
Hope that cat is OK @floralies. I had a cat with a re-arranged pelvis too but she was fine once healed, tho a bit wobbly afterwards.
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Doesn't appear to have any lost marbles, I never see the son, once last year and he answered the phone January when I rang to see how he was.often walk or drive by on my way out,that's how I knew his car wasn't there.i see what you are saying Dove,of it wasn't for the lockdown I could just take it stuff hand over with a receipt, presumably he gives his son money or whatnot for shopping.yes.Iwas brought up you don't discuss money,sex, politics or religion, my late mum,we discussed everything.I actually said to him last summer,we Brits aren't meant to mention money, but If l do now need to have it,he just to said Ok, knew hubby wouldn't be happy if I said look we need that money, but he actually bought the subject up today when we walked the dogs
Roughly £20 a month, since last summer sods law,I can hear you say ing why didn't I sort it before.last summer he paid, it was just papers, son moved house,then he went into hospital for hip,was in quite a while,then lockdown, another operation, I realized he would be unable to get to the door, plus I was worried about mixing,and Thus we are now on this situation.
It's not about whether you need the money or not @Nanny Beach .... even if you were a millionaire he should still pay you if he's asked you to get stuff for him. His pride shouldn't allow him to take the stuff without paying and you shouldn't say you need the money. You should just say 'You owe me £whatever '. Tell him that if he doesn't pay you you'll assume he no longer wants you to do his shopping. That's not being mean, grasping or anything negative. That's just what's right and fair.
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
It is quiet here today. Very gentle breeze and slow moving clouds which have brought us a couple of showers. If the current forecast is correct we should have had 7mm by bedtime tomorrow so just enough to lay the dust but not the good soaking they were forecasting a couple of days ago. After that, sunny and dry again.
Cave sorting later this pm then, after some admin I need to do. Nothing too energetic after a bad night last night. Good job I already have a whole, spatchcocked chicken marinating in spiced yogurt for our dinner and there's a big, home made naan in the freezer so just need to sort out some veggies.
Hope that cat is OK @floralies. I had a cat with a re-arranged pelvis too but she was fine once healed, tho a bit wobbly afterwards.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.