Punkdoc, how about showing her this morning's posts on Forkers? Sometimes it's easier to tell someone how you feel in writing, rather than getting into awkward (British!) conversations where you each skirt around the subject. I guess she'll be really touched to have confirmed to her, how much you care and are thinking about her. And she might really love one of the suggestions given, with luck...
Lovely possums, Pat. Looking at your posts is always very educational... don't suppose I'll ever visit Australia but you definitely give me a flavour of what it's like to live (and garden) there.
Yesterday's "sofa day" was very therapeutic. My cough is less, temperature normal and energy levels increasing... plus I watched some DVDs which have been waiting around for such an opportunity. Today I must do just a little in the way of useful jobs but intend to pace myself.
Glad to see you, DD! Hopefully your gardening friend might bring some divisions or cuttings to get you started. Great to hear that Charlie will have a congenial companion for his holidays, too.
Wow, Dacha! What excellent name-dropping! We too admired Rostropovich as well as Jacqueline du Pre. (I was lucky enough to hear her performing when I was a teenager and she was a young student.) My cousin is a cellist so we had a bit of a family interest in the instrument.
I'm with Obelixx on the Lithops man. Real hair, terrible haircut. Too wrapped up in his lovely plants to go to the barber perhaps.
Since 2019 I've lived in east Clare, in the west of Ireland.
Sat in the hospital day room with the other "victims", waiting for the days tests and to start sorting some treatment for the breathlessness.
Thanks for the advice, I had been thinking of trying to get her to go on a spa weekend with her best mate, so maybe I shall try and get that organised.
Problem is, she is ex trade and fully aware of potential problems and worries what will happen, if things go pear shaped and she is not here.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
I agree that talking is the best place to start but then I suspect, from previous posts and behaviour, that PD is not the most "listening" kind. You have to put your own fears aside and let her know your are worried for her and want to make her feel good. A bit of pampering won't go amiss and there are people who will come to your home and do hair, nails, reflexology, massage etc but the best thing you can do is be a good patient and not go all doom and gloom and sorry for yourself. The best outcome for both is for you to get well and then go and enjoy some quality time together somewhere good for the soul.
Grey day here but not too dull and it's dry so chappies are busy roofing the shower room.
Feeling better today but still headachy so a quiet day getting on with sewing projects and patchwork homework. If I can get OH away from his golf on TV I'll watch the Jacqueline Du Pré programme. I have the rose but have never, consciously, heard her play.
Hope all goes well with DD's visitor and that Charlie has a good time. Good luck to everyone else for their activities today. Love those Possum's Pat.
I like dogs and bananas (to eat, not grow) but there's too much of both on GW.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
Interesting reading all posts about Monty Don ......as I have >500 DID podcasts downloaded .....I plug in my ear phones and head off for my walk ......Monty came on yesterday , I had never known how badly he suffers with depression .......most of his music choices were enough to depress me so I skipped to a more enjoyable Kim Cattrall .......happy Monday everyone!
Punkdoc: my first thought was that your OH may not be able to really relax until you are sorted. I echo the other's advice about talking and telling her she is loved and appreciated. Perhaps when you feel a bit stronger you could arrange for a restaurant, or friend, to deliver you a lovely meal.
I love a Podcast - usually fall asleep with one mumbling in background. I have heard Monty speak of his depression before so have to value his 'gardening as therapy' outlook. Did anyone see the documentary about Chris Packham (BBC)? I didn't realise he has Asperger's and how he struggles with socialising and presenting.
Hope today is okay, punkdoc. I echo everyone else's comments on talking to your OH. As Obxx (I think) said, you maintaining a positive frame of mind and doing all you can to recover properly will help. If she doesn't feel able to leave you - and if the thought of doing so causes her more stress than not - then knowing it will pass and that she's appreciated will help.
Dacha, your post made me do a very teenage "OMG" out loud! Of course, I said it in full, not the abbreviation - I'm not actually a teenager . Rostropovich and du Pré are my daughter's absolute cello heroes (along with Sheku Kanneh-Mason of course). How amazing.
Chicky and NannyB, hope you had wonderful birthdays. And welcome home from Canberra, Pat.
Good to hear an update from DD.
Bit of a nothing day here. The kids have half-term homework they need to get out of the way, so they're doing some of that. Older daughter has an orchestra audition tomorrow and just doesn't seem to be in the right frame of mind at all, and I don't seem to be able to find the right things to say to help her find her mojo, in fact everything I say makes it worse.
PS I really enjoyed the lithops man on GW. I confess that if someone is passionate and engaging and I'm interested in the subject I rarely worry about their fashion choices or physical attributes. I usually notice (though I didn't in this case, which is surprising if it was so evident) but don't tend to dwell on it.
'If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.'
Just been to an equestrian centre to see if they will take daughter 2's mare, who I'm looking after but not riding, for some training. Daughter has moved back down here from the north of France where she was sent, she's a teacher, not much choice in the matter for junior teachers. Now she has children I'm worried about her getting on a mare who hasn't been ridden for a few years. The trainer will take her this week. It's half term so daughter can help me get her into the trailer, that will probably be fun and games!
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
Lots of carrots and a belt (fabric, not weapon) round her bum to help drive her in.
LG - Hard isn't it sometimes. Just have to keep shtum occasionally. Possum is having a paddy about something at the mo but won't say what and, of course, nothing I say helps to the point that it becomes all my fault. Fed up. Don't fancy a week in Bilbao with that attitude so hope she comes round.
I suppose to have podcasts you need an i-Phone.....
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
Obelixx, no you don't. Obviously they are kind of designed to be listened to on an ipod or phone, but you can listen on a PC (is it a PC you're using?).
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Morning all.
Punkdoc, how about showing her this morning's posts on Forkers? Sometimes it's easier to tell someone how you feel in writing, rather than getting into awkward (British!) conversations where you each skirt around the subject. I guess she'll be really touched to have confirmed to her, how much you care and are thinking about her. And she might really love one of the suggestions given, with luck...
Lovely possums, Pat. Looking at your posts is always very educational... don't suppose I'll ever visit Australia but you definitely give me a flavour of what it's like to live (and garden) there.
Yesterday's "sofa day" was very therapeutic. My cough is less, temperature normal and energy levels increasing... plus I watched some DVDs which have been waiting around for such an opportunity. Today I must do just a little in the way of useful jobs but intend to pace myself.
Glad to see you, DD! Hopefully your gardening friend might bring some divisions or cuttings to get you started. Great to hear that Charlie will have a congenial companion for his holidays, too.
Wow, Dacha! What excellent name-dropping! We too admired Rostropovich as well as Jacqueline du Pre. (I was lucky enough to hear her performing when I was a teenager and she was a young student.) My cousin is a cellist so we had a bit of a family interest in the instrument.
I'm with Obelixx on the Lithops man. Real hair, terrible haircut. Too wrapped up in his lovely plants to go to the barber perhaps.
Hi all.
Sat in the hospital day room with the other "victims", waiting for the days tests and to start sorting some treatment for the breathlessness.
Thanks for the advice, I had been thinking of trying to get her to go on a spa weekend with her best mate, so maybe I shall try and get that organised.
Problem is, she is ex trade and fully aware of potential problems and worries what will happen, if things go pear shaped and she is not here.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Punkdoc, Maybe look at it as parents do with their children? " You can't watch over them 24/7"?
My beloved elder daughter is heading to Columbia next year. Part of me is thrilled for her, part of me is scared beyond measure.
Maybe you could have a " Pamper day" at home with her friend? manicure, pedicure, hair , make up etc even a massage table can be brought to you??
I agree that talking is the best place to start but then I suspect, from previous posts and behaviour, that PD is not the most "listening" kind. You have to put your own fears aside and let her know your are worried for her and want to make her feel good. A bit of pampering won't go amiss and there are people who will come to your home and do hair, nails, reflexology, massage etc but the best thing you can do is be a good patient and not go all doom and gloom and sorry for yourself. The best outcome for both is for you to get well and then go and enjoy some quality time together somewhere good for the soul.
Grey day here but not too dull and it's dry so chappies are busy roofing the shower room.
Feeling better today but still headachy so a quiet day getting on with sewing projects and patchwork homework. If I can get OH away from his golf on TV I'll watch the Jacqueline Du Pré programme. I have the rose but have never, consciously, heard her play.
Hope all goes well with DD's visitor and that Charlie has a good time. Good luck to everyone else for their activities today. Love those Possum's Pat.
I like dogs and bananas (to eat, not grow) but there's too much of both on GW.
Pat what wonderful pics.......
Interesting reading all posts about Monty Don ......as I have >500 DID podcasts downloaded .....I plug in my ear phones and head off for my walk ......Monty came on yesterday , I had never known how badly he suffers with depression .......most of his music choices were enough to depress me so I skipped to a more enjoyable Kim Cattrall
.......happy Monday everyone!
Morning all - just flying through...
Punkdoc: my first thought was that your OH may not be able to really relax until you are sorted. I echo the other's advice about talking and telling her she is loved and appreciated. Perhaps when you feel a bit stronger you could arrange for a restaurant, or friend, to deliver you a lovely meal.
I love a Podcast - usually fall asleep with one mumbling in background. I have heard Monty speak of his depression before so have to value his 'gardening as therapy' outlook. Did anyone see the documentary about Chris Packham (BBC)? I didn't realise he has Asperger's and how he struggles with socialising and presenting.
Have a positive day everyone.
Hello everyone.
Hope today is okay, punkdoc. I echo everyone else's comments on talking to your OH. As Obxx (I think) said, you maintaining a positive frame of mind and doing all you can to recover properly will help. If she doesn't feel able to leave you - and if the thought of doing so causes her more stress than not - then knowing it will pass and that she's appreciated will help.
Dacha, your post made me do a very teenage "OMG" out loud! Of course, I said it in full, not the abbreviation - I'm not actually a teenager
. Rostropovich and du Pré are my daughter's absolute cello heroes (along with Sheku Kanneh-Mason of course). How amazing.
Chicky and NannyB, hope you had wonderful birthdays. And welcome home from Canberra, Pat.
Good to hear an update from DD.
Bit of a nothing day here. The kids have half-term homework they need to get out of the way, so they're doing some of that. Older daughter has an orchestra audition tomorrow and just doesn't seem to be in the right frame of mind at all, and I don't seem to be able to find the right things to say to help her find her mojo, in fact everything I say makes it worse.
PS I really enjoyed the lithops man on GW. I confess that if someone is passionate and engaging and I'm interested in the subject I rarely worry about their fashion choices or physical attributes. I usually notice (though I didn't in this case, which is surprising if it was so evident) but don't tend to dwell on it.
Just been to an equestrian centre to see if they will take daughter 2's mare, who I'm looking after but not riding, for some training. Daughter has moved back down here from the north of France where she was sent, she's a teacher, not much choice in the matter for junior teachers. Now she has children I'm worried about her getting on a mare who hasn't been ridden for a few years. The trainer will take her this week. It's half term so daughter can help me get her into the trailer, that will probably be fun and games!
Lots of carrots and a belt (fabric, not weapon) round her bum to help drive her in.
LG - Hard isn't it sometimes. Just have to keep shtum occasionally. Possum is having a paddy about something at the mo but won't say what and, of course, nothing I say helps to the point that it becomes all my fault. Fed up. Don't fancy a week in Bilbao with that attitude so hope she comes round.
I suppose to have podcasts you need an i-Phone.....
Obelixx, no you don't. Obviously they are kind of designed to be listened to on an ipod or phone, but you can listen on a PC (is it a PC you're using?).
For example: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b006qnmr/episodes/downloads