I can’t think of anything to help, but the talking sounds like a good plan. I find my colouring in books very helpful, and I don’t need to go anywhere.
PD , sounds like you need to sit down together , hold your wife's hand , look into her eyes and tell her how much you love her and open your heart .....and most important of all ... try to be as positive as you can
Busy......I loved Jacqueline du Pré and she was so witty, I had the pleasure of becoming friends with Slava Rostropovich and his wife Galina back in the 90s in Moscow , he was probably the greatest cellist of all time , he glowed when he spoke about Jacqueline https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mstislav_Rostropovich
Just popped in briefly, managed a quick read back a few days ago too, so I am trying to keep up. Very sad to see you are not well Punkdoc, and worried about OH. Can't advise but each of you worrying silently about the other doesn't make anyone's life easier. Probably the best wasy to find out what she needs is to ask her, although there is a good chance that she will say she is fine, Tricky. I send hugs and best wishes to you both.
My gardening expert friend arrives today to 'organise' my garden. I have no available funds at the moment for gardening, so it will all be paper planning, but will be good to see her ideas.
My French friend is also coming for the week to spend time with Charlie whilst he is on holiday, timing is perfect, I can't get out to do all the things with him I used to do, so her being able to take him is great, she adores him and he her, they just spend all the time laughing and giggling and cuddling. She is only 27 (really 27) so has all the energy to keep up with him.
Best wishes to all, hope the weather is treating you kindly, bit chilly here but warmer later in the week.
“Coffee. Garden. Coffee. Does a good morning need anything else?” —Betsy Cañas Garmon
I thought you all might like to see a photo taken from our motel room in Canberra (on our little balcony). It is a mother possum with junior clinging to her back. She tried to climb up onto the roof. But after several tries, gave up. I think junior was a bit heavy. No wonder they call Canberra the “Bush Capital”.
Hello everyone I'm still under the duvet with a good book
I'm just going to get up , but want to say to dear Pdoc that your OH will be more able to cope if you are both able to share your fears and your hopes together so as everyone had said, talking and listening are the important things. Also, has she a good dependable friend she can do some stuff with, even if it's just a regular meet up for coffee? Just knowing that she has that time with someone she likes and can talk to safely will make a lot of difference.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Punkdoc, I'm with everyone else. Talk ,and listen to each other. As Pat suggested, adult colouring books are very relaxing ,or maybe online jigsaws? I agree it's important to have some " me time" for both of you ,and no guilt should be felt about it. Warmest wishes to you both.
BL says "I like the dogs. I don't want to watch Monty digging up his banana tree yet again."
I accept the banana thing isn't for everyone, but , by way of comparison, it's planted once a season, and dug up once a season.
If I only saw the dogs twice a season, I'd be happy.
I guess it's the FF button for both of us eh?
Raining here again and the garden is, once again, totally waterlogged.
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I can’t think of anything to help, but the talking sounds like a good plan. I find my colouring in books very helpful, and I don’t need to go anywhere.
PD , sounds like you need to sit down together , hold your wife's hand , look into her eyes and tell her how much you love her and open your heart .....and most important of all ... try to be as positive as you can
Busy......I loved Jacqueline du Pré and she was so witty, I had the pleasure of becoming friends with Slava Rostropovich and his wife Galina back in the 90s in Moscow , he was probably the greatest cellist of all time , he glowed when he spoke about Jacqueline
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mstislav_Rostropovich
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Morning everyone.
Just popped in briefly, managed a quick read back a few days ago too, so I am trying to keep up. Very sad to see you are not well Punkdoc, and worried about OH. Can't advise but each of you worrying silently about the other doesn't make anyone's life easier. Probably the best wasy to find out what she needs is to ask her, although there is a good chance that she will say she is fine, Tricky. I send hugs and best wishes to you both.
My gardening expert friend arrives today to 'organise' my garden. I have no available funds at the moment for gardening, so it will all be paper planning, but will be good to see her ideas.
My French friend is also coming for the week to spend time with Charlie whilst he is on holiday, timing is perfect, I can't get out to do all the things with him I used to do, so her being able to take him is great, she adores him and he her, they just spend all the time laughing and giggling and cuddling. She is only 27 (really 27) so has all the energy to keep up with him.
Best wishes to all, hope the weather is treating you kindly, bit chilly here but warmer later in the week.
Morning all. Morning DD.
Morning all. Good to see you DD.
I thought you all might like to see a photo taken from our motel room in Canberra (on our little balcony). It is a mother possum with junior clinging to her back. She tried to climb up onto the roof. But after several tries, gave up. I think junior was a bit heavy.
No wonder they call Canberra the “Bush Capital”.
Morning all.
Lovely possum pics Pat..
Hope Obelixx is feeling better today and you too Pdoc.
Thanks Joyce.
i also want to send good wishes to those struggling at the moment.
Hello everyone
I'm still under the duvet with a good book 
I'm just going to get up , but want to say to dear Pdoc that your OH will be more able to cope if you are both able to share your fears and your hopes together so as everyone had said, talking and listening are the important things. Also, has she a good dependable friend she can do some stuff with, even if it's just a regular meet up for coffee? Just knowing that she has that time with someone she likes and can talk to safely will make a lot of difference.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Punkdoc, I'm with everyone else. Talk ,and listen to each other. As Pat suggested, adult colouring books are very relaxing ,or maybe online jigsaws? I agree it's important to have some " me time" for both of you ,and no guilt should be felt about it. Warmest wishes to you both.
BL says "I like the dogs. I don't want to watch Monty digging up his banana tree yet again."
I accept the banana thing isn't for everyone, but , by way of comparison, it's planted once a season, and dug up once a season.
If I only saw the dogs twice a season, I'd be happy.
I guess it's the FF button for both of us eh?
Raining here again and the garden is, once again, totally waterlogged.