Thanks, Fairy I see you as a well rounded, erudite person who I personally look up to and admire......so I imagine you've put those horrible experiences behind you now.
My ex husband was a Rob, very much so but luckily I have a very strong survival instinct and had the strength of mind to leave him son in tow followed up by a hammering in court. A lesser woman might have gone under.
I think this story line is rather shocking though, there is never any excuse to stab or otherwise damage another person however controlling or violent they are. There are plenty of other resources like the police and refuges. The social services will have a field day and probably end up taking both children away - well they would in reality maybe not the Archers.
Luckily I have been with the current Mr Lou12 for 17 years and happily married for 15 years so there is always the potential for a happy ending
I am an avid Omnibus listener, but with all the hype in the media this week I couldn't avoid hearing the story line. I feel for all the Helen's out there but also believe that her actions were rather excessive considering the close family & friends that she could have confided in, am I missing the point?
Quite so Dove. I should have left sooner too - that was the moment I knew I had to do it before I ended up in jail. It was no longer about what he might do to me, it was about what I might do to him.
GD - the point is - it's not always easy to tell people because if they take action, it can often make the victim's situation worse. Believe me - I know how this works. You also feel guilty and ashamed because you feel it's all your fault and you've made a bad choice so therefore you're a failure at 'choosing' someone. When you are at the stage of 'the straw breaking the camel's back' you can simply react in a certain way because you can't take it any more. Until you've been there, you really don't know how you might react.
David - thank you for those kind words. It means a lot. It still affects me - I cried when I wrote that initial post, but I have to keep being reminded of what happened so that it never happens to me again.
Now you know why I love getting up on those hills
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
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Thanks, Fairy
I see you as a well rounded, erudite person who I personally look up to and admire......so I imagine you've put those horrible experiences behind you now.
Hugs from me too x
My ex husband was a Rob, very much so but luckily I have a very strong survival instinct and had the strength of mind to leave him son in tow followed up by a hammering in court. A lesser woman might have gone under.
I think this story line is rather shocking though, there is never any excuse to stab or otherwise damage another person however controlling or violent they are. There are plenty of other resources like the police and refuges. The social services will have a field day and probably end up taking both children away - well they would in reality maybe not the Archers.
Luckily I have been with the current Mr Lou12 for 17 years and happily married for 15 years so there is always the potential for a happy ending
I am an avid Omnibus listener, but with all the hype in the media this week I couldn't avoid hearing the story line. I feel for all the Helen's out there but also believe that her actions were rather excessive considering the close family & friends that she could have confided in, am I missing the point?
I think the point is that she was going to leave - she hadn't planned to stab him - but then he threatened her young son Henry and she panicked ...
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
As I see it, the point of the story is to persuade people in similar situations to leave before it gets to this point
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Quite so Dove. I should have left sooner too - that was the moment I knew I had to do it before I ended up in jail. It was no longer about what he might do to me, it was about what I might do to him.
GD - the point is - it's not always easy to tell people because if they take action, it can often make the victim's situation worse. Believe me - I know how this works. You also feel guilty and ashamed because you feel it's all your fault and you've made a bad choice so therefore you're a failure at 'choosing' someone. When you are at the stage of 'the straw breaking the camel's back' you can simply react in a certain way because you can't take it any more. Until you've been there, you really don't know how you might react.
David - thank you for those kind words. It means a lot. It still affects me - I cried when I wrote that initial post, but I have to keep being reminded of what happened so that it never happens to me again.
Now you know why I love getting up on those hills
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Fairy
((huge hugs)) 
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.