Dove - I have just caught your news - I am so sorry - He always seemed as if he was such a big part of you. It must help though to know that he slipped away so peacefully with company and enjoyed his last day.
I hope your Ma is OK and understands wht has happened - a hard thing for you to have to do
Ma took the news quite well, a few tears and appropriate words, then a look of confusion and she said, "I've never heard that he had a wife?" ... we talked it through again and we found a lovely photograph of them together a few years ago; it was on her bookshelf so we moved it to her dressing table where she could see it and it seemed that she was joining the right dots ... but the carer said that after we'd gone she asked to go and sit with him as usual, so she took her into his room and she could see that he wasn't there, and they sat and talked it through again - she said Ma was fine. It seems that she feels that she's lost a friend rather than a husband of 68 years ... it may be better that way.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Like a lot of people on here, my troubles and worries have been stress that has taken we off work and effected my family and friends. It a hidden medical condition they does not seem evident to other people. It has taken a lot of counselling to get me slowly back to who I was. Gardening has been the best treatment for me and I am no more happier when I have my hands in soil.. For everyone who has problems , whatever they are, the love of your family is a huge bonus to make things better
So sorry Dove, I hope your mum just calmly accepts the situation as it is, hopefully she wont be too distressed. Your parents were married for the same length of time as mine...68 years.
Dad has been sorting through loads of papers, cards, newspaper cuttings, my mum kept everything !
I ordered the flowers today, sorted out some paper work, got the registrar sorted out, I seem to have been on the go for hours.
Steve, thank you for your post above and hoping you can get back to normal in time.
You are right about gardening though, I have found time to sow a few more seeds this afternoon, half hour in the greenhouse works wonders.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
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Dove - I have just caught your news - I am so sorry - He always seemed as if he was such a big part of you. It must help though to know that he slipped away so peacefully with company and enjoyed his last day.
I hope your Ma is OK and understands wht has happened - a hard thing for you to have to do
hugs Bjayx
Dove- Thinking of you at this sad time.
Thank you all ((hugs))
Ma took the news quite well, a few tears and appropriate words, then a look of confusion and she said, "I've never heard that he had a wife?" ... we talked it through again and we found a lovely photograph of them together a few years ago; it was on her bookshelf so we moved it to her dressing table where she could see it and it seemed that she was joining the right dots ... but the carer said that after we'd gone she asked to go and sit with him as usual, so she took her into his room and she could see that he wasn't there, and they sat and talked it through again - she said Ma was fine. It seems that she feels that she's lost a friend rather than a husband of 68 years ... it may be better that way.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Like a lot of people on here, my troubles and worries have been stress that has taken we off work and effected my family and friends. It a hidden medical condition they does not seem evident to other people. It has taken a lot of counselling to get me slowly back to who I was. Gardening has been the best treatment for me and I am no more happier when I have my hands in soil.. For everyone who has problems , whatever they are, the love of your family is a huge bonus to make things better
Be happy in the garden
Thinking of you and your Ma Dove. Hugs and best wishes xx
Thinking of you Dove,and Lyn too.
So sorry Dove, I hope your mum just calmly accepts the situation as it is, hopefully she wont be too distressed. Your parents were married for the same length of time as mine...68 years.
Dad has been sorting through loads of papers, cards, newspaper cuttings, my mum kept everything !
I ordered the flowers today, sorted out some paper work, got the registrar sorted out, I seem to have been on the go for hours.
Steve, thank you for your post above and hoping you can get back to normal in time.
You are right about gardening though, I have found time to sow a few more seeds this afternoon, half hour in the greenhouse works wonders.
xxx to you Lyn.