I've always felt that the Spending the Children's Inheritance phrase was 'tongue in cheek' and expressed by the parents themselves. I remember seeing it as a popular car sticker way back in the 80s - it made us laugh - and at that time I was one of 'the children' - in fact I suppose I still am
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Gosh, Clarington, I thought you were a young one! (only 37 years to retirement) That sounds as though you are sticking up for retired parents. I love my children dearly and they don't go on about inheritance, but I've read so much recently about parents "spending the children's inheritance".
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
The trouble with being young is that you have good eyesight and ears! Thus making it impossible to ignore the moaning from fellow workers about how their children who now have their own children seem to be of the current opinion that any saving their parents have been working hard to achieve are their RIGHT to access and dip into whenever they feel the need for (examples from this office in the last few months):
- A "gift" (because unlike a loan it'll never be fully paid off) for money to buy a brand new car as hers is "six years old and she's bored of it"
- A substanical deposit towards a new house
- A cash loan that might be paid back eventually towards entirely redecorating the house including a new kitchen because it looks dated and she saw this beautiful one at Ikea (the chap who told me this even told me his wife has put off retiring this year so that they could afford to pay for it!)
- Permission to live rent free in her old bedroom, with 24 hour babysitting / school run taxi driver avilable, hot food on demand, because she's decided she doesn't like her job so just walked out and can't understand why her parents can't afford to pay the rent of her flat for her for the next year while she decides where her future lays.
- Money for a new driveway and patio because the old one looked funny (definately not a loan because parents were told that they didn't have a mortgage so didn't need the money).
Perhaps its just that I am surrounded with the kind of people who feel that its their duty to coodle their children at the expense of themselves? But I know friends who have based their futures near entirely on the money their parents have saved.
I feel bad just asking my mother if she's any change for the pay and display at the car park and certainly wouldn't expect to get anything from them to help us buy a house / get married.. although they have offered to give me some money towards a tumble drier which is nice!)
(I know that probably sounds quite ranty! But I am firmly of the opinion that young people need a slap around the chops and to be grateful for who they have, not what's stored in a bank. I claim my honourary grumpy old person flat cap!)
Oh dear - it does sound that some of your colleagues don't know how to say No.
I do have some sympathy for youngsters today - it is much harder getting started than it was when I got my foot on the housing ladder, and what with Uni fees/loans etc, and also the fact that it does need two incomes to pay a mortgage etc - I couldn't have borne to send my little ones to a childminder, I was able to be a stay at home mum until they were almost grown up, but of course that did have an negative impact on my career and salary when I returned to work. However, I have been able to give my two a helping hand and so has their father - but now they've had that start they're determined to be self-reliant and also keep insisting that they'll look after me when I'm a cantakerous old bat (but I tell them that's what I've got a younger OH for, and they're suitably appreciative and make a fuss of him too)
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Just shifted 4 barrow loads manure into the veg garden and 3 garden trailer loads (each about 4 barrow loads) of mud and manure from the front of the winter horse shelter onto a manure heap. Knackered, shoulders ache. The joys of horse owning in the country! Looking after daughter's 2 horses too as she was sent to the north of France for work.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
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I've always felt that the Spending the Children's Inheritance phrase was 'tongue in cheek' and expressed by the parents themselves. I remember seeing it as a popular car sticker way back in the 80s - it made us laugh - and at that time I was one of 'the children' - in fact I suppose I still am
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
It's not pathetic punkdoc, we do pruning and treework in the winter but the garden is best not walked on. It's the planning season.
Get a cup of coffee and a catalogue
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Gosh, Clarington, I thought you were a young one! (only 37 years to retirement) That sounds as though you are sticking up for retired parents. I love my children dearly and they don't go on about inheritance, but I've read so much recently about parents "spending the children's inheritance".
Thank you, Dove...i'll wait events.
Like many of us, I was really enjoying everyon's pics.
PS, Just had an email.
The trouble with being young is that you have good eyesight and ears! Thus making it impossible to ignore the moaning from fellow workers about how their children who now have their own children seem to be of the current opinion that any saving their parents have been working hard to achieve are their RIGHT to access and dip into whenever they feel the need for (examples from this office in the last few months):
- A "gift" (because unlike a loan it'll never be fully paid off) for money to buy a brand new car as hers is "six years old and she's bored of it"
- A substanical deposit towards a new house
- A cash loan that might be paid back eventually towards entirely redecorating the house including a new kitchen because it looks dated and she saw this beautiful one at Ikea (the chap who told me this even told me his wife has put off retiring this year so that they could afford to pay for it!)
- Permission to live rent free in her old bedroom, with 24 hour babysitting / school run taxi driver avilable, hot food on demand, because she's decided she doesn't like her job so just walked out and can't understand why her parents can't afford to pay the rent of her flat for her for the next year while she decides where her future lays.
- Money for a new driveway and patio because the old one looked funny (definately not a loan because parents were told that they didn't have a mortgage so didn't need the money).
Perhaps its just that I am surrounded with the kind of people who feel that its their duty to coodle their children at the expense of themselves? But I know friends who have based their futures near entirely on the money their parents have saved.
I feel bad just asking my mother if she's any change for the pay and display at the car park and certainly wouldn't expect to get anything from them to help us buy a house / get married.. although they have offered to give me some money towards a tumble drier which is nice!)
(I know that probably sounds quite ranty! But I am firmly of the opinion that young people need a slap around the chops and to be grateful for who they have, not what's stored in a bank. I claim my honourary grumpy old person flat cap!)
Oh dear - it does sound that some of your colleagues don't know how to say No.
I do have some sympathy for youngsters today - it is much harder getting started than it was when I got my foot on the housing ladder, and what with Uni fees/loans etc, and also the fact that it does need two incomes to pay a mortgage etc - I couldn't have borne to send my little ones to a childminder, I was able to be a stay at home mum until they were almost grown up, but of course that did have an negative impact on my career and salary when I returned to work. However, I have been able to give my two a helping hand and so has their father - but now they've had that start they're determined to be self-reliant and also keep insisting that they'll look after me when I'm a cantakerous old bat (but I tell them that's what I've got a younger OH for, and they're suitably appreciative and make a fuss of him too)
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
should this be on th confessions thread
I am going to watch Carol Kliens year i my garden on yutube this afternoon
Not sure if it justifies a Confession Little-ann - perhaps we should have a Deserved Indulgencies thread too!!!
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
You sound a nice person Clarington.
Just shifted 4 barrow loads manure into the veg garden and 3 garden trailer loads (each about 4 barrow loads) of mud and manure from the front of the winter horse shelter onto a manure heap. Knackered, shoulders ache. The joys of horse owning in the country! Looking after daughter's 2 horses too as she was sent to the north of France for work.