Lets just hope and pray that the research into all sorts of dementia comes good and in the future this issue will be less and less, such a cruel illness. Carers of any sort deserve a medal and cakes Verdun
The main problem is defining what portion of care is social care and what portion is nursing care. Sister in law had to fight the bean counters every step of the way, when they tried to scale back the care package. For instance, continence, asessed on a scale of 1 is fine, 10 is worst, the assessor tried to say that someone who is bed bound and doubly incontinent should be a 6. So how bad do you have to be for a 10? same with mobility. to my mind, someone bed bound, unable to sit up, needing to be regularly turned with a hoist, and moved around in a wheelchair would be a 10, not a 7. I have to say the team of carers were brilliant, feeding her, turning, cleaning, making sure she was hydrated, and she never had a bedsore in three years in bed.
It helped that her husband is a solicitor, and all queries were sent on his headed note paper. When they said they would remove all care, we said we would pay for it all privately and then see them in court to argue the case. Every time they backed down. You couldn't do the arguing and all the caring, not enough hours in the day.
Sat here tapping away on the computer still working (if I could work 24 hours a day it wouldn't be enough to clear my to do list) and I suddenly thought - is OL camping at carfest? I hope she packed her flippers.
Hi Folks, Congratulations Bekkie Im sure you will enjoy being an auntie. I have been through the trauma of getting mum into full time care, she was finally accepted in February this year. My neice is a mental health community worker and helped. All I can remember her repeating is if you send her home it wont be a 'safe discharge' as soon as she said these words peoples attitude seemed to change. Mums situation is different hers is a physical dependency not mental and was based on mobility. Keep fighting for full time care, mum is happier and I am more relaxed because Im not permanently waiting for the phone to ring to say shes had another fall and needs to go into hospital. We were lucky as mums social worker and assessors were really supportive. Good Luck Verdun and remember to look after youself.
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The main problem is defining what portion of care is social care and what portion is nursing care. Sister in law had to fight the bean counters every step of the way, when they tried to scale back the care package. For instance, continence, asessed on a scale of 1 is fine, 10 is worst, the assessor tried to say that someone who is bed bound and doubly incontinent should be a 6. So how bad do you have to be for a 10? same with mobility. to my mind, someone bed bound, unable to sit up, needing to be regularly turned with a hoist, and moved around in a wheelchair would be a 10, not a 7. I have to say the team of carers were brilliant, feeding her, turning, cleaning, making sure she was hydrated, and she never had a bedsore in three years in bed.
It helped that her husband is a solicitor, and all queries were sent on his headed note paper. When they said they would remove all care, we said we would pay for it all privately and then see them in court to argue the case. Every time they backed down. You couldn't do the arguing and all the caring, not enough hours in the day.
Sat here tapping away on the computer still working (if I could work 24 hours a day it wouldn't be enough to clear my to do list) and I suddenly thought - is OL camping at carfest? I hope she packed her flippers.
She is clarington and think she did
Hi Folks, Congratulations Bekkie Im sure you will enjoy being an auntie. I have been through the trauma of getting mum into full time care, she was finally accepted in February this year. My neice is a mental health community worker and helped. All I can remember her repeating is if you send her home it wont be a 'safe discharge' as soon as she said these words peoples attitude seemed to change. Mums situation is different hers is a physical dependency not mental and was based on mobility. Keep fighting for full time care, mum is happier and I am more relaxed because Im not permanently waiting for the phone to ring to say shes had another fall and needs to go into hospital. We were lucky as mums social worker and assessors were really supportive. Good Luck Verdun and remember to look after youself.
Night night all, big love to you and your families
All your parents and family members are very lucky to have such caring and loving people in their lives
And we are lucky to have the friends we have here in this wonderful potting shed
Im at the inlaws the weekend so may only be able to pop in now and then so please keep the kettle on the boil
Best wishes and hugs Verdun and Liri, hope your mums get the help they deserve xx
Congrats bekkie, whats his name
Nite nite beaus mum x