If she has been diagnosed as Alzheimers, she is entitled to full council tax rebate.
Also if the council try to charge for helpers, you need NHS (free) care.
Mother in Law had a team of round the clock carers paid for by the NHS because she hallucinated and was not safe on her own. This is not a social issue (which is chargeable) but a mental health issue, therefore is free on the NHS.
Someone asked me if I felt guilty about how much it cost the NHS. No, I figure that as she and her husband had paid taxes all their working lives, she was entitled to the care. It seems to be OK for drug addicts to have hot and cold running social workers, when most have never worked a day in their lives, because its "a mental health issue" Personally I think that sticking a needle in your arm with a recreational drug is a lifestyle issue, and more attention and care should be paid to the elderly.
The others are right - your mum needs professional carers and you need time and space to live your own life, as well as to enjoy positive times with your mum rather than be her carer - I've been there
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My mother in law was moved from the house in Coventry, into a smaller place next door to sister in law.in Newcastle. She was always classed as being"in her own home". Her daughter being next door neighbour was useful, because if they lived in the same house, it is assumed family can look after her. As it was, her daughter had a watching brief ,making sure the team of carers worked well, leaving her time to work, and argue with the social workers. The hallucinations are important, and I go through this with a lot of wives and husbands who feel guilty popping out for 10 minutes to pick up a few things. I see relatives being totally ground down by the 24/7 relentless caring.
Talking to someone who is not there is a hallucination.
Hallucinations means it is a mental health issue.
Therefore she needs nursing care, not social care.
Verdun hugs. Dove is spot on. Mum should not have been discharged without a care plan in place. It isn't in your best interests or Mum's for you to be providing the sort of care & help that your Mum needs.
Not best time to say Hi Liri, but Hi & hugs.
I worked for the Alz' society for 16yrs and another independent dementia charity afterwards so I'm sure about the below info'.
In England people who need to go into EMI nursing homes should have a nursing care needs assessment, depending on how they are assessed NHS pay part of care fees, granted not a huge amount.
My Dad was assessed as band 2 out of 3. I argued ( but was in a position to argue) as they said that the highest band was for people who had unpredictable nursing needs. I asked them to explain how a person with dementia / hallucinations / erratic behaviour and moods and what is a terminal illness could be classed as predictable Had he been predicatable he would have remained at home !! We got the highest rate...as he was self funding it still nearly wiped out his life savings. The family home could not be counted as an assest as Mum was still alive and living there.
Liri if you live in England you are not responsible for paying any of Mum's fees and if there is talk of any top up fees please contact the Alzheimer's Society.
See you all tomoz' and hope all sleep okay x
Archie shabby not chic...the shed table and chairs are 16yrs old
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Best of luck, Verdun.
We had a lot of help from the Alzheimers society.
If she has been diagnosed as Alzheimers, she is entitled to full council tax rebate.
Also if the council try to charge for helpers, you need NHS (free) care.
Mother in Law had a team of round the clock carers paid for by the NHS because she hallucinated and was not safe on her own. This is not a social issue (which is chargeable) but a mental health issue, therefore is free on the NHS.
Someone asked me if I felt guilty about how much it cost the NHS. No, I figure that as she and her husband had paid taxes all their working lives, she was entitled to the care. It seems to be OK for drug addicts to have hot and cold running social workers, when most have never worked a day in their lives, because its "a mental health issue" Personally I think that sticking a needle in your arm with a recreational drug is a lifestyle issue, and more attention and care should be paid to the elderly.
Fb, you are right, we all give money to the NHS to spend on looking after us. What else is the merry go round for... sitting around in meetings?
thoughts are with you verdun .
NHS fidget dont get me going
I could archie, but having been at the sharp end for 30 years, it probably better go on the rant thread.
I could save the NHS billions, and divert it to real causes, but its very radical and not very PC, and it involves not being the World health service.
Hear, hear Fidget!
Hear hear fidget, totally agree with you.
Verdun ((hugs)) thinking of you and your mum.
The others are right - your mum needs professional carers and you need time and space to live your own life, as well as to enjoy positive times with your mum rather than be her carer - I've been there
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Hear hear Fidget. We're struggling to fund my mum (93, with Alzheimers) in her care home because her condition isn't considered a medical one.
My sympathies, Verdun.
My mother in law was moved from the house in Coventry, into a smaller place next door to sister in law.in Newcastle. She was always classed as being"in her own home". Her daughter being next door neighbour was useful, because if they lived in the same house, it is assumed family can look after her. As it was, her daughter had a watching brief ,making sure the team of carers worked well, leaving her time to work, and argue with the social workers. The hallucinations are important, and I go through this with a lot of wives and husbands who feel guilty popping out for 10 minutes to pick up a few things. I see relatives being totally ground down by the 24/7 relentless caring.
Talking to someone who is not there is a hallucination.
Hallucinations means it is a mental health issue.
Therefore she needs nursing care, not social care.
Nursing care is free on the NHS.
Verdun hugs. Dove is spot on. Mum should not have been discharged without a care plan in place. It isn't in your best interests or Mum's for you to be providing the sort of care & help that your Mum needs.
Not best time to say Hi Liri, but Hi & hugs.
I worked for the Alz' society for 16yrs and another independent dementia charity afterwards so I'm sure about the below info'.
In England people who need to go into EMI nursing homes should have a nursing care needs assessment, depending on how they are assessed NHS pay part of care fees, granted not a huge amount.
My Dad was assessed as band 2 out of 3. I argued ( but was in a position to argue) as they said that the highest band was for people who had unpredictable nursing needs. I asked them to explain how a person with dementia / hallucinations / erratic behaviour and moods and what is a terminal illness could be classed as predictable
Had he been predicatable he would have remained at home !! We got the highest rate...as he was self funding it still nearly wiped out his life savings. The family home could not be counted as an assest as Mum was still alive and living there.
Liri if you live in England you are not responsible for paying any of Mum's fees and if there is talk of any top up fees please contact the Alzheimer's Society.
See you all tomoz' and hope all sleep okay x
Archie shabby not chic...the shed table and chairs are 16yrs old