Don't take this the wrong way Dove, but be on the lookout for any signs of you suffering stress or fatigue from everything you are doing looking after him.
I spent weeks visiting my father when he was in hospital and it wasn't until he left hospital that I realised how stressed I had become. We all put on a brave face when needed, but can unknowingly suffer ourselves a little without knowing at the time.
Find the time to put your feet up, and have a few minutes for yourself each day if possible.
Kind thought @leadfarmer and appreciated … I think it’s actually going to be less stressful for me as I’ll be making fewer long trips (near enough 2.5 hrs each way). Once he gets a little stronger it’ll be much simpler. This evening he’s found it hard to get up off our low sofa and we had to sort of lift him, which was hard … but now we’ve found some firm cushions to build up the sofa seat it will be simpler … also he’d spent quite a long session in the gym today proving to the OTs and physios that he was able enough to come home … he’s not been eating much of the hospital food so no wonder he’s weak. We’ll soon sort that out. 😊
Also a friend has sent me a voucher for some spa treatment Bannatynes when life is a little simpler … looking forward to a recharge 😊
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Aww Dove & Womble that's so good to hear!! 😃😃😃 For some reason this post was way down, so I thought everything was just ticking along - how lovely to be wrong! I know Rob's recovery will benefit so much by being with you all. ❤
My husband came home after 3 months in hospital,( Collapsed at home, sepsis and delerium ignored for 11 hours in a and e, paralysed from neck down, heart valve replacement to remove infection six weeks later, multiple strokes ) having lost 4 stone of muscle , and barely able to walk. He sat on the sofa and it took two of us to get him up again. My brother managed to borrow a rise and recline chair , and we ordered two to replace the sofa but there was 8 weeks delivery on it. He started going to the pool for hydrotherapy at first and someone said, Why didn't you put the sofa up on blocks to raise its height?. Sometimes just simple things work as well. I'm glad your son is home and getting good food. Recovery is a long slow process, we're 18 months down the line and still seeing small improvements. Don't get fobbed off with physiotherapy by phone, I spent the first six months driving him to pool, gym, oxygen therapy. I got Saturdays off. 90% of it we had to sort (and pay for )ourselves. He has gone through depression, grief, anger, frustration at not being able to just do what he did before. Your son will have a long slow recovery ahead of him, but getting home to you is a good start. Make sure you have a day off now and then Dove, I treasured an hour in the bath, just time to myself.
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I spent weeks visiting my father when he was in hospital and it wasn't until he left hospital that I realised how stressed I had become. We all put on a brave face when needed, but can unknowingly suffer ourselves a little without knowing at the time.
Find the time to put your feet up, and have a few minutes for yourself each day if possible.
Also a friend has sent me a voucher for some spa treatment Bannatynes when life is a little simpler … looking forward to a recharge 😊
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
For some reason this post was way down, so I thought everything was just ticking along - how lovely to be wrong! I know Rob's recovery will benefit so much by being with you all. ❤
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
There's nothing like hospital food - supposedly healthy, but drab and unappetising at best.