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  • Bee witchedBee witched Posts: 1,295
    Thanks @Obelixx I'll see if I can source a UK equivalent.
    We are slate roofs here too ... and lots of rain.

    Be good to be able to clear the moss before it gets too established.

    Bee x
    Gardener and beekeeper in beautiful Scottish Borders  

    A single bee creates just one twelfth of a teaspoon of honey in her lifetime
  • Now then @KT53, joking aside, you're in very good company.  Question is, do you really want to be ?

    "The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint ... As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behaviour and dress."     Peter the Hermit writing in AD1274.
    When there's always biscuits in the tin, where's the fun in biscuits ?
  • BenCottoBenCotto Posts: 4,718
    @Bee witched, have you tried copper tape or wire as a moss preventative? I’ve not used it myself, just read about it.
    Rutland, England
  • Now then @KT53, joking aside, you're in very good company.  Question is, do you really want to be ?

    "The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint ... As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behaviour and dress."     Peter the Hermit writing in AD1274.
    When I hear my neighbour scream and call his 4 year old son an f****** ar****** many times over, it's not a surprise that the youngsters behave as they do.

    But can I prove it? No one except my wife would believe it, not even the man's partner, who is always out when this occurs.
  • B3B3 Posts: 27,505
    Your neighbour seems like someone who needs watching. 
    In London. Keen but lazy.
  • @rowlandscastle444. The child is being abused.  Whether or not that extends to physical or, God forbid, 'other' forms of abuse is for experts to determine.  It's beyond your pay grade.  However, if those experts don't know whats happening they can't help the child so you need to get straight on to the authorities before it escalates, if it hasn't already.

    Too many times children have been let down by adults who should have stepped-in but didn't.  It's time for YOU to do the right thing. DO NOT DELAY.

    When there's always biscuits in the tin, where's the fun in biscuits ?
  • DovefromaboveDovefromabove Posts: 88,147
    If anyone believes that this man’s or anyone’s treatment of a child is seriously damaging then a referral to Children’s Services is called for … anyone can make a phone call registering concern … you can insist on your name being withheld and in my long experience this will be respected. 

    Social workers will then make enquiries with the professionals connected with the child (nursery, GP, health visitor etc) to see if they have any concerns re the child’s development and behaviour or the care of the child, to build a picture and decide whether to
    intervene and provide support (eg more funded child minding hours) if the parents are struggling to cope for whatever reason. 

    Of course, this us what should happen … social work is under funded and under staffed … caseloads are huge and although there shouldn’t be waiting lists, they do exist. 



    Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.





  • Jenny_AsterJenny_Aster Posts: 945
    When I hear my neighbour scream and call his 4 year old son an f****** ar****** many times over, it's not a surprise that the youngsters behave as they do.

    But can I prove it? No one except my wife would believe it, not even the man's partner, who is always out when this occurs.
    Can you not record the abuse where the man can't see you. You don't need any confrontation from that sort, so take care.

    Poor kid, he'll think he's already a failure and his life has hardly started.
    Trying to be the person my dog thinks I am! 

    Cambridgeshire/Norfolk border.
  • When I hear my neighbour scream and call his 4 year old son an f****** ar****** many times over, it's not a surprise that the youngsters behave as they do.

    But can I prove it? No one except my wife would believe it, not even the man's partner, who is always out when this occurs.
    Can you not record the abuse where the man can't see you. You don't need any confrontation from that sort, so take care.

    Poor kid, he'll think he's already a failure and his life has hardly started.
    We have considered that. If we knew it was about to occur, I could get a recording device set up in the right part of the house, and set it to record. Pretty well impossible since we don't know when or where it will occur. 

    As for reporting him anonymously, he would know who reported him. No one else would believe he has the capability. Certainly not his family or friends, or even other neighbours. His partner would support him 100%. They rely on one another economically. 

    The son goes to a pre-school in a private school, 5 days a week. Normally out of the house by 8:30am. Returns three days a week at about 7:30pm - on the days his mother goes to work. Returns about 4pm the other days. 

    The man, a builder, is out all week, running his own business. Everyone but us would call him respectable, but living right next door, we hear everything. We've told him so, many times, so as to allow him to be careful with what he says. 

    It makes my wife cringe when she hears language like that. Okay, it's not all the time by any means.

    The boy seems to love his father. He lacks little - except a father who can control his temper. I've been on the unpleasant end of it myself - and I just laughed at him for being so pathetic. I'm 6ft 2in, and the man is taller than me, and wider, as well as muscular and almost 30 years younger. 

    I refuse to be intimidated. The Christian music that comes through the walls doesn't match his attitude or language. 'Tis a shame. Someone with plenty of energy and physical capability, could do so much good.
  • Jenny_AsterJenny_Aster Posts: 945
    You're in an awkward situation. The man sounds quite complex, a split personality maybe, who knows. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors, appearances can be so deceptive. We hear it all the time about people who carried out terrible acts, "he was a lovely person" etc.

    Perhaps keep a diary, just in case his wife does need assistance along the way at some point, she may at the moment be in denial. 
    Trying to be the person my dog thinks I am! 

    Cambridgeshire/Norfolk border.
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