When I looked after my mum in thelast weeks of cancer, they gave me liquid morphine to give her, They said just keep upping the dose as I thought best.
I asked if there would be any come backs on me for that, they said definitely not. the last days are very difficult, I couldn’t keep my dad in his bed, couldn't even go to the loo until someone was here.
If Garry is not at that stage yet they may prescribe a gentle sedative , week dose of morphine just so he rests more, then you maybe could manage him at home. Unless things have changed, its not easy to get carers coming in, this is rural Devon, not the same as in the cities.
I think taking the GP’s advise is the best thing, but bear in mind, they don’t like you caring at home, it’s easier and cheaper for the NHS for the patient to be in a home.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I wish I could help @Hostafan1, but all I can do is send sympathy and wish that a solution can be found. Are there any MacMillan nurses where you live?
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
I've just read an article in The Times that says even her son says she must be stopped. "He claimed that his mother thinks that she has “been anointed by God or some other higher power”, and said he had received a text message from his mother this month that read: “You need to listen to me. You and your sister are going to die. The CIA has a plot and half the UK’s population is going to be killed within five years.”
She sounds completely bonkers, I hope no one believes her.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
Have to wonder what the criteria will be? One obvious one is the almost 50-50 split comes to mind but then there 's north-south, old-young, left-right and so many more they could play with.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
@Hostafan1, hope you will be able to find a suitable outcome. You probably know about this already, but I read yesterday that dementia carers in receipt of Attendance Allowance should also receive a 25% discount on their council tax bill. Hopefully it's all been automatically done.
Another tough day for you @Hostafan1. I totally understand that you you want to try being at home together. I really hope some help can be arranged for you both. We found with FIL that the disturbed nights had the most impact, and NHS carers weren’t available for that until the last days (and he was in bed all the time by then). Having palliative care on board should be part of the plan from GP. You have much love on here.
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I asked if there would be any come backs on me for that, they said definitely not.
the last days are very difficult, I couldn’t keep my dad in his bed, couldn't even go to the loo until someone was here.
If Garry is not at that stage yet they may prescribe a gentle sedative , week dose of morphine just so he rests more, then you maybe could manage him at home.
Unless things have changed, its not easy to get carers coming in, this is rural Devon, not the same as in the cities.
I think taking the GP’s advise is the best thing, but bear in mind, they don’t like you caring at home, it’s easier and cheaper for the NHS for the patient to be in a home.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
She sounds completely bonkers, I hope no one believes her.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Another tough day for you @Hostafan1. I totally understand that you you want to try being at home together. I really hope some help can be arranged for you both. We found with FIL that the disturbed nights had the most impact, and NHS carers weren’t available for that until the last days (and he was in bed all the time by then). Having palliative care on board should be part of the plan from GP. You have much love on here.