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Fence/neighbour problems.
Ditsy
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I live in a long term tenancy property and have a shared boundary with another tenant next door, we have been neighbours for 25 years. They won't let me put a new fence in, they want to keep the 4' chain link fencing and for me to install the fence in front/behind it. I have done this previously and there just isn't room to get the posts in properly so it only lasts four or five years.
Why they don't want a proper fence up in beyond me. I have said I will pay for the whole thing and get a professional fencer in to do it. In fact last week they agreed so I booked it for this Thursday, now they are saying no. The whole thing is making me ill, I live alone with no support at all and I feel bullied. They keep changing their minds.
Why they don't want a proper fence up in beyond me. I have said I will pay for the whole thing and get a professional fencer in to do it. In fact last week they agreed so I booked it for this Thursday, now they are saying no. The whole thing is making me ill, I live alone with no support at all and I feel bullied. They keep changing their minds.
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You've been paying them rent for 25 years. I think THEY need to sort it out
Perhaps they think a taller solid fence will shade their garden … or are they concerned that they will be expected to paint ‘their’ side, or allow someone into their garden to do it?
Perhaps they are concerned that removing the existing fence may upset the landlord in some way … presumably the exiting fence is the landlord’s property?
Perhaps they just don’t see the reason to change a situation that they are used to and that they are happy with?
I know it’s not your intention but perhaps they are feeling a little bit pressured too?
Maybe you could both find a third party for you both to discuss both your wishes along with your concerns and whatever your landlord’s view is, and mediate to help find a solution you’ll both be happy with? It is your landlords property and he/she should have the last word.
Im sure the last thing either of you wants is to make each other unhappy and to spoil good neighbourly relations by forcing an unwanted change on the other. The type of boundary between you affects both sides. 😊
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
When we moved in all we had a a 4' chain link between us so no privacy at all. I had a fence installed in front of the chain link but the posts just never went in well enough due to the chain links posts. I had it redone 5 years ago and again it is falling done.
Having got several quotes from fencers (with my neighbours agreement) they have all said the same thing -remove the chain link. My neighbour was agreeable and even said she would pay half. She has since withdrawn her offer so I said I would pay thinking that would resolve it but no.
They have recently had built a big entertainment area and outdoor kitchen, all a bit of a bodge! The builder is a friend of theirs and has told them all the fencers are wrong and that the chain link doesn't need to come out. I think he was hoping to get the job himself, but no way.
I am prepared to pay for good quality panels, concrete posts and gravel boards. Fence won't need painting but they may if they wish. It will be guaranteed for 25 years. Whats not to like? I thought they would be grateful instead it has caused no end of arguing and conflict.
Part of me wants to just take down my falling down fence and go back to just the chain link. Maybe then when all privacy is lost again they will reconsider. But they are clearly planning big bbq parties which is going to stop me using my garden if we have no fence.
I have emailed the landlord but I think he will say we both need to be agreeable.