All young children [and older ones] misbehave at times - we all know that. It's how you deal with it that's important. I used to take the girls to a place for a meal after school finished in the summer. We also went at other times - birthdays with their friends etc. There was an incident similar to the one @KT53 describes. Small children allowed to run riot back and forth between the small play area, and the mothers - who sat at the other end of the place doing nothing about it. It was so bad the waitress even had to tell them off, after they ran into her while she carried food. Other parents were there with their children who behaved perfectly normally and respectfully.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
bought an extendable dog lead. She held the owner end and OH the doggy end. That flipping lead accompanied us to his parents in Worcester, my Dad's in Cumbria and all over the local beaches and lakes. We still have it.
I tried that on the weekend. Gave my boy the owner end of the dog's lead while the dog was running free along the canal towpath. He insisted on having both ends and then threw the lot into the canal Luckily the dog is well practised in retrieving his own lead and went in to get it.
The best 'reins' we've got is a dinosaur backpack which has a handle on the top and a clip for a longer lead which tucks inside the backpack (along with his jar of duck food). I mostly just use it to stop him falling on his face in the mud/dog turds though as most paths are pretty rough around here. Holding hands is much easier in general. It was great while he was finding his feet initially though as they find it easier to balance with both hands free.
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
Well, if you will insist on having boys @wild edges.......... tho I suspect a dinosaur bag would have worked for Possum too. She always liked them and we still have a Duplo set.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
My two started off with the harness in the pram/pushchair and progressed to the reins which clipped onto the same harness ... they were so used to it they didn't even notice they were wearing it. Start as you mean to go on.
Using the same stragegy I never said 'Shall we go to ...?' What are you going to do if they say 'No'? I said 'We are going to the shops/the playingfield/the allotment or whatever. If I wanted to give them a choice I would say 'We are going out ... it's your turn to choose ... which shall we go to, the playing field or the pond to feed the ducks' .
I see parents who say 'shall we put your boots on?' .... little Johnnie says 'No' and then where are you? Just say 'It's time to put your boots on because we're going out' ... don't give your children a choice if there isn't one ... that's daft and self-defeating ... parents have got to keep the upper hand from the start otherwise it's even more of an uphill struggle.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My two were taught to stay sitting at the table after they had finished eating and wait for everyone else to finish before they could leave. I couldn't stand other kids running around while i was still eating, I thought it good manners but maybe it was just me being old fashioned as that was what I was taught!
That's always the slippery slope @Dovefromabove - giving them a choice Mine were told 'we're doing this'. No choice. If you're doing something where a choice is feasible [as in your example] that's different. I did the same. How on earth would you ever get them out the door for school otherwise?
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Same here @floralies. If we went out to eat or have a coffee - every day on hols in Italy when she was little - we took drawing stuff for Possum. One of our great pleasures was Sunday lunch out with 4 generations of Italian families all gathered round and everyone making sure the oldest and youngest were cared for, fed and entertained. No bad behaviour. No kids running around.
Now, if she goes out for a meal with friends or has them round (pr-Covid) she makes them all put their mobiles in a basket.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
We were very lucky with our two - generally very docile, quiet and obedient. The drugs obviously worked!
No need for reins when out and about as they were both wary of dogs and strangers so rarely strayed too far from the legs of a parent.
However, I was nicknamed 'Victorian Dad' so, if discipline was required....
I do dislike kids running wild in public with their parents showing no regard for the rest of the human race. Haven't experienced it for ages though - a silver lining of the dark Covid cloud!
I ordered some sedums from eBay over the weekend kind of hoping my wife would be out or busy with the kids when they arrived so I could sneak them into the collection unnoticed. Typically the postman arrived just as she came home with the kids so I was caught red handed Good thing she didn't see the other ones that I got from the garden centre on Sunday The eBay seller included two extra sedums for free too
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
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It's how you deal with it that's important.
I used to take the girls to a place for a meal after school finished in the summer. We also went at other times - birthdays with their friends etc. There was an incident similar to the one @KT53 describes. Small children allowed to run riot back and forth between the small play area, and the mothers - who sat at the other end of the place doing nothing about it. It was so bad the waitress even had to tell them off, after they ran into her while she carried food. Other parents were there with their children who behaved perfectly normally and respectfully.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Using the same stragegy I never said 'Shall we go to ...?' What are you going to do if they say 'No'? I said 'We are going to the shops/the playingfield/the allotment or whatever. If I wanted to give them a choice I would say 'We are going out ... it's your turn to choose ... which shall we go to, the playing field or the pond to feed the ducks' .
I see parents who say 'shall we put your boots on?' .... little Johnnie says 'No' and then where are you? Just say 'It's time to put your boots on because we're going out' ... don't give your children a choice if there isn't one ... that's daft and self-defeating ... parents have got to keep the upper hand from the start otherwise it's even more of an uphill struggle.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Mine were told 'we're doing this'. No choice. If you're doing something where a choice is feasible [as in your example] that's different. I did the same.
How on earth would you ever get them out the door for school otherwise?
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Now, if she goes out for a meal with friends or has them round (pr-Covid) she makes them all put their mobiles in a basket.
No need for reins when out and about as they were both wary of dogs and strangers so rarely strayed too far from the legs of a parent.
However, I was nicknamed 'Victorian Dad' so, if discipline was required....
I do dislike kids running wild in public with their parents showing no regard for the rest of the human race. Haven't experienced it for ages though - a silver lining of the dark Covid cloud!
Yeh. Right.😐