perhaps it would help if she tried to focus on the marriage rather than the wedding. it is, after all, only the first day of her married life. maybe they could have a big first anniversary celebration instead.
This is exactly what my daughter did. They were so busy with buying a house studying at university and working that they could not fix a date at all and the guest list seemed to get bigger and bigger and the whole thing too expensive. In the end they had a small wedding with just 8 people including the bride and groom and 2 of the guests were under 1 year old! I didn't even know about it till the following day,nor did anyone else. The whole thing cost £500. No reception,honeymoon,photographer etc They have been happily married for over 2 years and have not even had a honeymoon yet. I have a lovely photo they took on the day and they both look so happy and my daughter is positively radiant!! I may not have been there but that one photo sums it up for me.
“Every day is ordinary, until it isn't.” - Bernard Cornwell-Death of Kings
Back in the day people didn't live together until they were married ... nowadays they live together and produce a family of pageboys and bridesmaids to follow the bride in virginal white down the aisle ... if people had to wait until after Covid before starting their lives together then I'd feel sorry for them.
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Back in the day people didn't live together until they were married ... nowadays they live together and produce a family of pageboys and bridesmaids to follow the bride in virginal white down the aisle ... if people had to wait until after Covid before starting their lives together then I'd feel sorry for them.
My daughter and son-in-law lived together for a few years before marrying although I am still waiting for a family of pageboys and bridesmaids to be produced!!!!!!! They are still busy as my daughter is a full time nurse and my son-in-law has gone back to uni so even without Covid they would not have been able to set a date for a big wedding.
“Every day is ordinary, until it isn't.” - Bernard Cornwell-Death of Kings
I arranged our marriage at the local registry office as a surprise for her birthday (and pre-emptively knowing I'd never forget both her birthday and wedding anniversary - cunning eh?) - but got cold feet a week before as I worried that she may say no. There were five of us there - my wife (to be), our son, me and her friend and husband as the witnesses. The worst decision she ever made. Couldn't get away from me after that. Died of boredom 24+ years later. Hindsight eh?
It's not the event that matters is it? Isn't it the people being together that's the be all and end all IMO. So Covid, schmovid - just be together.
I'm so sorry to hear that @Debs64, although I do not share your feelings about this Government who I think have done the best they can under the extraordinary circumstances. Could your daughter not postpone again to June or July like my Oh's nephew is doing?
My step daughter planned for years for a perfect wedding, fantastic she said they could have a bought a small house with the money it cost. 2 years later, guess what, all over!
On a more cheerful note, my OH has his vaccination on Saturday, so down to the 60 year olds now. Getting on fast.
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I had a phone call out of the blue last night, from a doctor I helped train, who is now an ICU consultant down south. I was a bit surprised, as I didn't know him well and we hadn't spoken since he left Sheffield. It was clear he was really suffering, and wanted some advice. He has worked almost without a break since February 2020. It is people like him that I feel sorry for, not people who can't get married, or, people like me who can't have a holiday.
@steveTu, I too got married on my wife's birthday. I think she has decided she will kill me instead
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
@punkdoc ... if/when you speak to him again, and if appropriate of course, please tell him that we are so grateful ... grateful from the bottom of our hearts ... grateful for the selfless dedication of people like him and his colleagues.
I have not been anywhere inside other than the chemist for my flu jab and the hospital for my Pfizer jab since 5/3/20 when I scattered my parents’ ashes. I have stayed away from people and done everything I could not to catch Covid, because I know that at my age and being on the plumpish side, if I catch it I’m likely to need an intensive care bed and add to the pressures on the NHS staff.
If being aware of the immense tide of thankfulness there is for the NHS from the Silent Majority of us, will help those who have been under such horrendous pressure ... please pass it on. 💙
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From me too please @punkdoc So very grateful for all they do. Definitely heroes in my eyes. We haven't been anywhere either for almost a year. I really don't care about having a holiday, something I'm not even considering. I just want to see my family again. Think things being back to some sort of normal could be later than June, depending on everyone getting their vaccine
If you honestly believe that a wedding in May is going to spread Covid to everyone but a wedding in June won’t then I see the sense, if you believe that a wedding with 50 guests will spread Covid but a wedding with 30 guests is perfectly safe then ditto.
I just have to listen to my daughter breaking her heart.
I wasn’t speaking about any particular month being ‘safer’ than another. Simply that it’s has been impossible to predict what the situation will be in any given month re Covid. As @B3 says, it’s still possible to celebrate a marriage without it being a big, expensive affair involving lots of people.
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They were so busy with buying a house studying at university and working that they could not fix a date at all and the guest list seemed to get bigger and bigger and the whole thing too expensive.
In the end they had a small wedding with just 8 people including the bride and groom and 2 of the guests were under 1 year old!
I didn't even know about it till the following day,nor did anyone else.
The whole thing cost £500.
No reception,honeymoon,photographer etc
They have been happily married for over 2 years and have not even had a honeymoon yet.
I have a lovely photo they took on the day and they both look so happy and my daughter is positively radiant!!
I may not have been there but that one photo sums it up for me.
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I am still waiting for a family of pageboys and bridesmaids to be produced!!!!!!!
They are still busy as my daughter is a full time nurse and my son-in-law has gone back to uni so even without Covid they would not have been able to set a date for a big wedding.
not postpone again to June or July like my Oh's nephew is doing?
On a more cheerful note, my OH has his vaccination on Saturday, so down to the 60 year olds now. Getting on fast.
I was a bit surprised, as I didn't know him well and we hadn't spoken since he left Sheffield. It was clear he was really suffering, and wanted some advice.
He has worked almost without a break since February 2020.
It is people like him that I feel sorry for, not people who can't get married, or, people like me who can't have a holiday.
@steveTu, I too got married on my wife's birthday. I think she has decided she will kill me instead
When you don't even know who's in the team
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So very grateful for all they do. Definitely heroes in my eyes.
We haven't been anywhere either for almost a year. I really don't care about having a holiday, something I'm not even considering. I just want to see my family again.
Think things being back to some sort of normal could be later than June, depending on everyone getting their vaccine