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  • Lizzie27Lizzie27 Posts: 12,494
    @the tidy gardener , do try not to worry about them too much, easier said than done of course. They are your parents, not your children and are adults who must make their own decisions even if you disagree with them. I understand the social distancing rules are relaxed for people with mental health issues because they cannot be held to understand them, although whether other people will give them the benefit of the doubt remains to be seen.
     My mother died over ten years ago and I still feel guilty now about how I tried to boss her into doing things I thought were good for her and didn't take fully into account her independence and what she wanted to do. She used to get very cross with me. 
    North East Somerset - Clay soil over limestone
  • Thankyou.yes.my husband says the same.i wonder if its payback for when I was a teenager?! 
  • Logan4Logan4 Posts: 2,590

    So Boris, I can have strangers in my house if I wanted to sell it, but I can't have my family visit me 🙄
    Perhaps they can pretend to be interested in buying it 🤷🏻‍♀️


    You still have to keep 6ft away from them and you can't be in the house at the same time, have to be in the garden  and wipe everything down after they have gone. It sounds ridiculous to me.
  • FlyDragonFlyDragon Posts: 834
    Well I had an upset with my mum.my dad has dementia.she is chomping at the bit to get out.all her friends are so why shouldn't she?! I worry he will wander off.for one thing most supermarkets its 1 person 1 trolley.and he bangs into people.a lot.😳 I cant sit on them tho.ive done shopping for them but it's not enough.in fact when I said this she said no it's not enough...and off  course if they did get it I couldnt go in their house.or the hospital...I might as well be saying rhubarb rhubarb...🙁
    Its so hard, I really feel for you.  My grandad went into a care home last year and it was very difficult for my grandmother and she struggled with guilt and with wanting to bring him home, but since this has happened we've all been so thankful that she isn't trying to manage lockdown with him on her own.  

    Your poor mum must be desperate for a break, is there any way to get some respite for her?  Can someone stay with him in their garden while she goes to the supermarket, observing strict hygiene?  I think supporting a vulnerable person is one of the exceptions to the restrictions but I'm not sure of the exact details.  Have they got a social worker who might be able to offer some help or advice?
  • star gaze lilystar gaze lily Posts: 17,709
    Yes I know @Logan4 😉  just think its ridiculous I'm allowed to let strangers in, but not my own sons. 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • BenCottoBenCotto Posts: 4,718
    Allowing people to visit houses for sale involves minuscule movement and, slowly slowly, the brakes have to come off the economy.

    Allowing people to visit houses to see relatives and friends involves millions of potential interactions a day.

    Of course there is no logic in allowing one movement but not the other but there is sense.
    Rutland, England
  • LoxleyLoxley Posts: 5,698
    That's it Ben. They are trying to square the circle of getting R down, while restarting the economy. Seeing your elderly relative has no quantifiable economic value :(
    "What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour". 
  • madpenguinmadpenguin Posts: 2,543
    We all have problems and we need common sense to work through them.
    Just remember how lucky we are to live in the UK even in the current crisis.
    Think for a moment how you would cope in Venezuela.

    Venezuela, a country already in crisis, is preparing for the looming coronavirus pandemic.

    The price of food has increased by 80% since lockdown and fuel is being rationed. It's unheard of in a country that sits on the world's largest oil reserves.

    The United Nations calls it one of the most vulnerable countries in the world – with high malnutrition, 1 in 5 hospitals have no water, and over 70% of doctors have emigrated.

    “Every day is ordinary, until it isn't.” - Bernard Cornwell-Death of Kings
  • wild edgeswild edges Posts: 10,497
    The WHO are warning that this virus may never go away and if that turns out to be true then it's only a matter of time before it hits the really vulnerable places very hard. :/
    If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
  • I'm going to sit in the garden outside while my mum goes to a park to see her friend,hopefully my dad will stay inside or even be taking a nap so my mum can at least have a little break.i do feel it's harder on the carers at this time  
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