Thank you all for kind words. I feel relaxed now. I will leave decision to DH and finances. After reading your posts i am thinking- whether here or in a new place, i can always have a garden that i love.
If it is bigger, i could have lots of things from my wishlist, if i stay here i can be more creative and organised.
I do like my home and area where i live currently and the extension will replace conservatory by a bigger living room so we can see the garden all year round.
DH already feels neglected because i love to be in garden. He keeps asking do i still love him
I moved from a semi with a large corner plot, to a detached with a very long back garden, but a tiny front. My husband to be then bought the house next door and we combined the gardens. I have always gardened since very young. I knew that was what I wanted, but at times, especially when I was working six days a week to pay the mortgage after I got divorced, it did get a bit neglected. With a large garden, you have to be able to put in a lot of hours or not mind it being a bit messy.
Now, I am practically retired, the next place will be a bungalow, with a large plot, and less grass, but better permanent pathways.
At the moment I don't find it a bit of a challenge, I'm quite happy. I couldn't do gardening all day,because of my back. But having the dogs makes me stop and maybe if I have time I go back to what I love doing.As well looking after the dogs.
i do love my DH. I met him when i was 17 and fell in love. i was lucky as he did turn out to be right person for me i think over time he will get used to of my addiction.
joyce21,
yes family first, though i wish i could have more time for garden.
Logan,
It is nice you have found a right balance and happy.
When we moved house a larger garden was an important element of what we were looking for, but I wouldn't move house just to get a larger garden. For some people the garden is probably more important than the house. It depends just how important the size of garden is to the individual.
We have moved to a bigger garden but the main aim was a smaller house that was easier to manage as we age and that we have. The plot is 1.4 hectares/3.5 acres+140,000 sq ms. Half is pasture and will be used by our new neighbours who need space for horses.
A large area is graveled and full of weeds but will become a proper gravel garden inspired by Beth Chatto. There is a large, square, fenced off area which was used for chickens and that will become the potager with the hen house becoming a tool shed. The rest is long grass with lots of wild apple mint and nettles and a few fruit and other trees which we will get cut back to lawn level grass and then planted with some more trees for colour and blossom and berries for wildlife. There will also be a perennial border and a white border and a winter border and lots of clematis and roses but that all needs thinking about and a bulldozer.
This is all fine as we are retired but I wouldn't take it on if I had a job and a young family to consider or thought I might be moving again in 7 years or at all, frankly. It will take time and hard work and lots of love to make it what we want and I wouldn't want to leave it behind. Take the time to enjoy the garden you have and enjoys your family while you are still all living together. The next few years of secondary school will pass in a flash as it is.
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Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
Take the time to enjoy the garden you have and enjoys your family while you are still all living together. The next few years of secondary school will pass in a flash as it is.
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Thank you all for kind words. I feel relaxed now. I will leave decision to DH and finances. After reading your posts i am thinking- whether here or in a new place, i can always have a garden that i love.
If it is bigger, i could have lots of things from my wishlist, if i stay here i can be more creative and organised.
I do like my home and area where i live currently and the extension will replace conservatory by a bigger living room so we can see the garden all year round.
DH already feels neglected because i love to be in garden. He keeps asking do i still love him
I moved from a semi with a large corner plot, to a detached with a very long back garden, but a tiny front. My husband to be then bought the house next door and we combined the gardens. I have always gardened since very young. I knew that was what I wanted, but at times, especially when I was working six days a week to pay the mortgage after I got divorced, it did get a bit neglected. With a large garden, you have to be able to put in a lot of hours or not mind it being a bit messy.
Now, I am practically retired, the next place will be a bungalow, with a large plot, and less grass, but better permanent pathways.
Newb. . . . family first. You need to have time to do things together and you have your garden as well.
At the moment I don't find it a bit of a challenge, I'm quite happy. I couldn't do gardening all day,because of my back. But having the dogs makes me stop and maybe if I have time I go back to what I love doing.As well looking after the dogs.
Edd,
i do love my DH. I met him when i was 17 and fell in love. i was lucky as he did turn out to be right person for me
i think over time he will get used to of my addiction.
joyce21,
yes family first, though i wish i could have more time for garden.
Logan,
It is nice you have found a right balance and happy.
Fidgetjones,
yes bungalow indeed make sweet home. Good luck.
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When we moved house a larger garden was an important element of what we were looking for, but I wouldn't move house just to get a larger garden. For some people the garden is probably more important than the house. It depends just how important the size of garden is to the individual.
We have moved to a bigger garden but the main aim was a smaller house that was easier to manage as we age and that we have. The plot is 1.4 hectares/3.5 acres+140,000 sq ms. Half is pasture and will be used by our new neighbours who need space for horses.
A large area is graveled and full of weeds but will become a proper gravel garden inspired by Beth Chatto. There is a large, square, fenced off area which was used for chickens and that will become the potager with the hen house becoming a tool shed. The rest is long grass with lots of wild apple mint and nettles and a few fruit and other trees which we will get cut back to lawn level grass and then planted with some more trees for colour and blossom and berries for wildlife. There will also be a perennial border and a white border and a winter border and lots of clematis and roses but that all needs thinking about and a bulldozer.
This is all fine as we are retired but I wouldn't take it on if I had a job and a young family to consider or thought I might be moving again in 7 years or at all, frankly. It will take time and hard work and lots of love to make it what we want and I wouldn't want to leave it behind. Take the time to enjoy the garden you have and enjoys your family while you are still all living together. The next few years of secondary school will pass in a flash as it is.
Last edited: 25 October 2016 12:27:44