Yes Fire, that’s what I said about the Co Op. they also have a person on ‘Hospital Duty’. They sit in the hospitals and grab the people who have just lost someone, Don't worry madam, we can handle the whole lot for you from start to finish including the headstone.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I lost my husband in 2001; he expressed no wish as to where his ashes should be laid to rest so he sat in his cardboard box in the utility room. However, the beloved Labrador was in a fancy oak casket next to my chair by the Inglenook. Several years later, upon selling the cottage and packing up, the dilemma arose as what to do with husband and Buster. They both loved the garden so I thought it would be fitting to scatter their ashes at Rose Cottage. A couple of weeks later the local farmland, who used to help out with the weeding, remarked "ooh, you've been fertilising, potash? No, it's my husband and Labrador ". The look on his face was priceless! More recently, at my Mum's cremation, my brother informed me the coffin also contained her dog's ashes and my ponytail, cut off when I was 11 as I was determined to have a 'Purdy' - more like a Pudding!!
I’m not keen on scattering ashes, rather bury them. Someone requested we scatter his on the local golf course, we got permission but I didn’t really like it, would much rather have buried them, even shallow.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I’m not keen on scattering ashes, rather bury them. Someone requested we scatter his on the local golf course, we got permission but I didn’t really like it, would much rather have buried them, even shallow.
Why?
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
Mum says if Dad goes first she's going to put his ashes in a jar on the mantelpiece and dust him every day (he moans about the amount of cleaning she does). Our deceased cats' ashes all came back in nice wooden boxes which are on a shelf in OH's study/games room with some framed photos. One came back accompanied by a packet of forget-me-not seeds, which I though was a nice idea even though I have no need of them (plenty self-seeding already).
Doncaster, South Yorkshire. Soil type: sandy, well-drained
Yes Fire, that’s what I said about the Co Op. they also have a person on ‘Hospital Duty’. They sit in the hospitals and grab the people who have just lost someone, Don't worry madam, we can handle the whole lot for you from start to finish including the headstone.
I've worked in hospitals for a long time and cared for a lot of dying people and their families and I've never seen that happen. It certainly won't be now anyway with the restrictions. Hospitals do have bereavement teams who have details of local funeral directors for people who ask.
My grandad who died in December had done all the preparation to donate his body to the local medical school but sadly because he died of Covid 19 he wasn't able to do this. I'm glad he didn't know he would have been disappointed.
Im with the putting them in a small jar idea, especially if you may move or want to put them in a pot.
That way if the plant dies or you need to re-pot for any reason (i had to exhume a pet from a pot that broke which wasn't fun) you wont have to worry about the ashes as much as they are contained in one place.
Yes Fire, that’s what I said about the Co Op. they also have a person on ‘Hospital Duty’. They sit in the hospitals and grab the people who have just lost someone, Don't worry madam, we can handle the whole lot for you from start to finish including the headstone.
I've worked in hospitals for a long time and cared for a lot of dying people and their families and I've never seen that happen. It certainly won't be now anyway with the restrictions. Hospitals do have bereavement teams who have details of local funeral directors for people who ask.
I know for a fact that the people we worked for did just that, they call it ‘hospital duty’ not now during the COVID outbreak but certainly before. Perhaps they call them bereavement teams now.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I've just come across this thread. My mother in law was recently cremated, now the what do we do with the ashes dilemma. She was a city girl, didn't really like parks or the outdoors.
We've a small gravel edge below a dwarf wall holding back a raised bed, planted up with lavender. It'd be a lovely spot but don't want to jeopardise the lavender.
How risky would it be to dig a hole below and to the side by say 30cm?
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“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
My grandad who died in December had done all the preparation to donate his body to the local medical school but sadly because he died of Covid 19 he wasn't able to do this. I'm glad he didn't know he would have been disappointed.
not now during the COVID outbreak but certainly before.
Perhaps they call them bereavement teams now.
We've a small gravel edge below a dwarf wall holding back a raised bed, planted up with lavender. It'd be a lovely spot but don't want to jeopardise the lavender.
How risky would it be to dig a hole below and to the side by say 30cm?