new neighbours, thoughtless people, no more sun in the sunny bed
nin
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My new neighbours have moved in recently after 6 months of builders banging and the owners coming in weekends and evenings banging and not a word of "we are just doing this I hope it dosen't disturb" or a "hello we're your neighbours". They have moved in.
A month in and a glow in the dark orange shed gets delivered , oh well i think prob just replacing the old one which is out of my eye line , so who cares.
Then I go down the garden and where we have a wire fence and i plant all my sun lovers for sun from 6 am till sunset next to the fence is the orange monstrosity.
Neighbours are knocking their other old shed down just don't want new one in same place as they can see it from their kitchen and dining room.
I ask politely if thats where the sheds going , i say half way down the garden is an odd place and explain my garden was only planted up in the last two years and lots of work and expense gone into the bed including two -four cubic yards of manure and the plants will not be happy .
He says no where else to put it.
I suggest on the hard standing at the end of the garden rather than half way down.
he says it wont fit.
i know hard standing at the ends larger and it will fit but i dont say.
I say but my plants, can you move it just a little further over please i tell him i know i have no rigt to ask but I would appreciate it.
He moves the shed 3 inches and says you will get plenty of sun , you should get sun by about half eleven on most of the plants.
I explain thats not enough . and i leave
I go back an hour later to look and its worse than i thought and the three inches he moved it away from my garden it has now moved back plus another 12 inches nearly upto the fence. just a narrow gap between the fence and the shed for the weeds to grow.
I have been so ill the last few years and building that flower bed is what has helped me through and recover from loosing my Dad, many of the plants are from my Dads garden or plants my Dad loved. Gardening is something Dad loved , including my dog and cat who are buried there . Its where i have my early morning cuppa in the sun and chat through the nightmares. Now no more , the focal point mid flower bed is big orange shed.
I know theirs nothing i can do it is just a thought that today many buy a house do what they want as they are entitled and then move on. Thought is never given to those that live next door and how what you do effects them.
My old neighbour who has now passed and i would always speak if doing anything even on the other side of the garden as in places there is only a wire fence , its not something you have to do but it is just considerate and good manners.
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nin unfortunately there's not a lot we can do about most things our neighbours do I just wanted to say I understand and am so sorry your joy in your garden has been spoiled.
lovegardens many thanks.
not sure why i posted , just a real case of heartache and as a bit of a recluse i do not see people to share with and i needed to share this which is unusual for me.
((hugs))
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Nin sorry to hear about your troubles. We're so lucky to have good neighbours although I wasn't too happy about the fence they put up a couple of years ago. I think it is bigger than they expected!
I hope your post has helped you get it off your chest. Whenever you need a sympathetic "ear", you can always rely on the GW forum.
I sypathise with you and it can be a nightmare with new neighbours. I am awaiting new neighbours to arrive. The house owner died and his son is selling the house. I have spoken to him of a few occasions mainly to request he stops lighting open fires in the garden without informing anybody that he is doing this. He was not sypathetic about that so I expect he will sell the house without any thought to me or the other neighnbours.
I have built my garden from scratch and have spent thousand of pounds on hardscaping work and plants where my next door neighbour left his to grow in to a messy jungle since his father died
I do feel apprehensive of the worst happening but will not be concerned until it happens because for all the stress what can you do to change the situation
Thanks all
What can you do , ..............................
Need to calm down and think of something legal first, (but my chill out spot has a horrible orange shed behind it ) Can i spray it with Tango ?
it looks like it has already been tangoed who would know ?
On an up note my husband who is not a gardener has been encouraged by the orange shed to say sod the neighbours we will build the whacking great extension we put off and sell at a huge profit and move to the middle of know where somewhere in east anglia. Which is my dream.
People are nicer the further you get away from london
Sounds like a plan Nin but first check how much the extension would cost and what it would add to the value of your house.
Might be simpler to let someone else invest in upgrades and live with all the mess and noise, not to mention having to deal with builders, plumbers, carpenters, plasterers, electricians and the rest - not to mention building regs.
Start house hunting now before OH changes his mind and gets used to the shed.
In the mean time, some extra wires and a rampant climber? Clematis montana should do the trick.
bless you, i am very sensitive and would be badly affected, i hope your situation improves x
take some advice from obelixx regarding the mess but think carefully about moving it's a huge step and can be difficult to adjust, The grass is not always greener.......
what about building a bit of new wooden fence to blank the shed out since you've already lost the sun there.
I too am like rosemummy very sensitive and miss the privacy of my old garden and the all day sunshine somewhere in the garden.
Nin: I do sympathise, truly. But I do have a 'cavalier' streak which prompts me to suggest planting a Russia Vine (aka mile-a-minute vine) - it should overwhealm the 'tango' shed in no time atall.....?? Seriously though, what's on the opposite neighbouring side? Redirect your own attention thataways and leave Mr Tango go to xxxx!!