steve 309 Oxford English Dictionary says phobia is errational fear of something. My Husband is terrified of going places, he gets ill, sometimes physical symptoms, sometimes mental, he knows its not rational. The Sociaphobia, Once a year I have a BBQ on our Wedding Anniversary,about 8 people he knows really well, not a huge crowd of strangers, he wanted me to cancell this year, I refused, he ended up laying on the bed, (inbetween rushing to the bathroom!) He has had various treatments, It all started when his Mother walked out when he was a child. Course, no therapy or help in those days, so it just excalated.
Nanny Beach I sympathise with your husband I suffer with an autistic disorder and have suffered all my life with that sort of thing, I have never been diagnosed with the condition and have only recently realised that this is something which I have been carrying with me and hiding for all of my life. As I got older it has been harder and harder to disguise my condition and now it can be quite unbearable at times, sorry to go on but this sort of interaction with other people is quite uplifting as it gives an autistic person time to think about what has been said before replying to others comments. Anyhow let your husband know that many people suffer with all sorts of these conditions which others don't realise affects us.
I too can sympathise with your hubby Nanny Beach. I've had anxiety/depression problems since the age of 20. It goes in phases so its not been all bad in that time, however it does impact on leading a normal life and I still try to avoid pre-planned social engagements where possible.
I used to cover it by using alcohol which led to a different problem. My thinking then was that it was better to be thought an alcoholic than someone who was 'nuts' or whatever. There is still a huge stigma attached to mental health issues, despite increased awareness through the media.
I 've been wondering. Where do the garden spiders lurk the rest of the year? I see nets of spiderlings and the odd skinny one running along the ground but never the fat spotty ones you see this time of year.
I don't dislike them, they're fine at a distance standing still, just terrified. A harvest man or spider on my leg recently was one of the few occasions I've ever screamed
Just googled it. Apparently the female lays her eggs and guards them. This means she can't hunt and feed so starves to death. Didn't see anything about the male. Note how I refrain from sexist jibes!
I don't mind spiders, it's my husband that doesn't like them, all he wan't to do is splatter them so I have to tell him to leave them alone, I'm the one who has to get them out of the house if any get in. We have been in this house 10 years but last year we came across the false widow spider and have seen quiet a few since then, I have since made sure that I always were gloves.
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I don't have a phobia but I was woken one night by one climbing across my face now that does send a shudder down your spine I kid you not!
steve 309 Oxford English Dictionary says phobia is errational fear of something. My Husband is terrified of going places, he gets ill, sometimes physical symptoms, sometimes mental, he knows its not rational. The Sociaphobia, Once a year I have a BBQ on our Wedding Anniversary,about 8 people he knows really well, not a huge crowd of strangers, he wanted me to cancell this year, I refused, he ended up laying on the bed, (inbetween rushing to the bathroom!) He has had various treatments, It all started when his Mother walked out when he was a child. Course, no therapy or help in those days, so it just excalated.
barry island, that sent a shudder down a lot of spines!
Nanny Beach I sympathise with your husband I suffer with an autistic disorder and have suffered all my life with that sort of thing, I have never been diagnosed with the condition and have only recently realised that this is something which I have been carrying with me and hiding for all of my life. As I got older it has been harder and harder to disguise my condition and now it can be quite unbearable at times, sorry to go on but this sort of interaction with other people is quite uplifting as it gives an autistic person time to think about what has been said before replying to others comments. Anyhow let your husband know that many people suffer with all sorts of these conditions which others don't realise affects us.
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I too can sympathise with your hubby Nanny Beach. I've had anxiety/depression problems since the age of 20. It goes in phases so its not been all bad in that time, however it does impact on leading a normal life and I still try to avoid pre-planned social engagements where possible.
I used to cover it by using alcohol which led to a different problem. My thinking then was that it was better to be thought an alcoholic than someone who was 'nuts' or whatever. There is still a huge stigma attached to mental health issues, despite increased awareness through the media.
That said I'm fine with spiders and more besides
I don't mind spiders, it's my husband that doesn't like them, all he wan't to do is splatter them so I have to tell him to leave them alone, I'm the one who has to get them out of the house if any get in. We have been in this house 10 years but last year we came across the false widow spider and have seen quiet a few since then, I have since made sure that I always were gloves.