I was salivating over a red cedar victorian style greenhouse in a GC, the price tag was over £7000. I didn't pay that for my land rover!! One of my problems is isolation, I live in a small village and everyone knows everyone else (apart from me and one or two new comers), I hate taking my son to school and picking him up, as all the other Mums have formed cliques (just think Stepford wives and you'll be halfway there!). Only the Dads will talk to me (wonder if thats why the Mums won't?), and they don't know a lot of the stuff that I've picked up garden-wise over the years from my Mum, like putting plants for bees near his plum tree, and using grease bands so he doesn't have to spray against codling moth. I think, from some of the cars I see, that a lot of folk have more money than they know what to do with, and are bored, and turn to bitching instead of doing something worthwhile (One of them has a crush on the guy that comes in to do her gardening for heavens' sake).
My garden is slowly taking shape, but I'm the sort of person who likes to do it myself to make sure it's done right, then it won't have to be done twice. I really need a shed (rotovator I saved up for is in the garage next to OH's pride & joy, so won't go in there by myself in case I scratch the blinking thing getting rotovator out. Mind you, I've a lot of manual digging to get rid of brambles before I think about touching that.
The voucher hasn't actually been posted yet (how daft do I look?), so have that to look forward to, plus I've checked one of the survey sites I'm registered with, and have just made the £50 mark you need to get a cheque (although that will go towards paying the dentist!). Should get another £5 Amazon voucher from the other survey site soon, so I will be able to get one or two things on my wish list. I'm not greedy, but a small lottery win would come in very handy. I get very wound up at times, as I didn't always have ME/CFS, and have had some very good jobs programming, which I could quite easily do from home, as I couldn't cope with the commute any more. Trouble is, lots of companies want your bum on a seat where they can see you, it doesn't matter that you could work better from home. Some of my best work-arounds have come when I was asleep or swimming! I used to be very active, I was learning to ride, I used to swim a mile twice a week, and the other weekday I had spare I went to aerobics. At the weekend I used to go mountain biking with my Husband and a group of his friends.
Just having a hissy fit at the life I used to lead, and didn't appreicate at the time. I would happily lose an arm/leg/kidney if I could be well again.
As with us all Mummy, at 45 I could out run all the youngsters in my unit over long distance and hold my own in games and Gym, they were very unfit when they joined up and a lot smoked, were overweight, had never had a hands on job. I did not have to do any of it as a WO1 and past 43 although my way was to do everything they did only better, now well into retirement it has all changed. Gardening most of today with a few sit downs in the sun, little and often gets the job done and I enjoy what I do though it is a mere drop in the lake to what I once did. The lady over the road asked me how things were after a long list of what was wrong with her, she is ten years younger, my reply, I take the pills and forget it. I know about villagers, you are still an incomer fifty years on, I never conformed to that, new people new stories to hear new interests, it is upwards and onwards not stick in the same old mud. Being or feeling alone does make you dwell on things, "hey" you have friends on here.
Sorry you feel so frustrated, MMP, but I can't help wondering if the fuel for your crosscountry excursions in the Landrover doesn't cost you a bomb. We used to have a '75 Series II Carawagon and it guzzled, but in those days fuel was cheap.
My fuel costs 15p a litre, OH makes it from waste veg oil from a school that would otherwise go to landfill. Otherwise I couldn't afford to run a land rover! He's also an engineer, so if anything goes wrong, he gets to fix it. He loves it when the sun's shining, but when it gets temperamental during winter, there's a lot of swearing. First lot is from me when I've told him X times something's wrong, the rest of it from him as he fixes it. I did, however, rebuild the axle on the off-roader when we needed it, under his direction - before we had children, and before I had ME. I used to be able to swap all 4 wheels on it in 20 minutes, road-biased tyres to get where we were going, and knobbly bobbly tyres for playing in the mud.
My ME is playing up the past couple of weeks, thought I was getting better (I am MUCH better than I was), trouble is, you do too much and it comes back and bites you in the bum. I guess I'm just feeling a bit sorry for myself, I will feel better when I can get out and potter around on my own, instead of having a grumpy 2 year old and off-colour 4 year old fighting with each other and screeching like banshees.
Sorry to hear the ME is playing up, MMP. You have such a positive approach to life as a rule and seem to get so much done, despite your health problems. Young children get everyone down from time to time, however adorable they are when they are asleep! I have to admit that (many moons ago) I hated being at home and isolated, with a young child and living among people that I did not find particularly congenial. Strikes me that you and your OH are unconventional people, doing interesting things that most people would not think of - like making your own fuel. Sometimes, being more go-ahead than others or having different values is quite isolating. (Hope this isn't offensive!!)
I find your attitude and your posts attractive, appealing and admirable and I think other people do, too. I really hope you run across a friend in the village who shares your sense of adventure and your sense of fun!
Mummy MP, Told you that there were friends on here you can pour it out when down and know we listen The problem with ME is half the doctors do not believe it and the other half have no idea what it is, it is very real yet not much done on the research side. I did see there could soon be a blood test only the patient has to be stressed before it can be taken? I love my young grandchildren but they go home at night, they could be stressful in larger doses.
"Oh well" a lovely sunny day here greenhouse open both ends and I will be out there after I have written my speech for Daughters Wedding Sunday. She asked if I had written it yet I said yes although when I took out all the bad language it was "Hello goodbye" I can see it now, "he is not going to show us all up!!! again? Well yes that is what dads do, they bring them back down to earth from their over the rainbow moments and clip their wings and ears if need be. After my last speech the best man stood up and said "I cannot follow that" and sat down again, there had been a lot of laughter, "err" I do not know if it was with me or at me.
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I was salivating over a red cedar victorian style greenhouse in a GC, the price tag was over £7000. I didn't pay that for my land rover!! One of my problems is isolation, I live in a small village and everyone knows everyone else (apart from me and one or two new comers), I hate taking my son to school and picking him up, as all the other Mums have formed cliques (just think Stepford wives and you'll be halfway there!). Only the Dads will talk to me (wonder if thats why the Mums won't?), and they don't know a lot of the stuff that I've picked up garden-wise over the years from my Mum, like putting plants for bees near his plum tree, and using grease bands so he doesn't have to spray against codling moth. I think, from some of the cars I see, that a lot of folk have more money than they know what to do with, and are bored, and turn to bitching instead of doing something worthwhile (One of them has a crush on the guy that comes in to do her gardening for heavens' sake).
My garden is slowly taking shape, but I'm the sort of person who likes to do it myself to make sure it's done right, then it won't have to be done twice. I really need a shed (rotovator I saved up for is in the garage next to OH's pride & joy, so won't go in there by myself in case I scratch the blinking thing getting rotovator out. Mind you, I've a lot of manual digging to get rid of brambles before I think about touching that.
The voucher hasn't actually been posted yet (how daft do I look?), so have that to look forward to, plus I've checked one of the survey sites I'm registered with, and have just made the £50 mark you need to get a cheque (although that will go towards paying the dentist!). Should get another £5 Amazon voucher from the other survey site soon, so I will be able to get one or two things on my wish list. I'm not greedy, but a small lottery win would come in very handy. I get very wound up at times, as I didn't always have ME/CFS, and have had some very good jobs programming, which I could quite easily do from home, as I couldn't cope with the commute any more. Trouble is, lots of companies want your bum on a seat where they can see you, it doesn't matter that you could work better from home. Some of my best work-arounds have come when I was asleep or swimming! I used to be very active, I was learning to ride, I used to swim a mile twice a week, and the other weekday I had spare I went to aerobics. At the weekend I used to go mountain biking with my Husband and a group of his friends.
Just having a hissy fit at the life I used to lead, and didn't appreicate at the time. I would happily lose an arm/leg/kidney if I could be well again.
KBO, eh?
As with us all Mummy, at 45 I could out run all the youngsters in my unit over long distance and hold my own in games and Gym, they were very unfit when they joined up and a lot smoked, were overweight, had never had a hands on job.
I did not have to do any of it as a WO1 and past 43 although my way was to do everything they did only better, now well into retirement it has all changed.
Gardening most of today with a few sit downs in the sun, little and often gets the job done and I enjoy what I do though it is a mere drop in the lake to what I once did.
The lady over the road asked me how things were after a long list of what was wrong with her, she is ten years younger, my reply, I take the pills and forget it.
I know about villagers, you are still an incomer fifty years on, I never conformed to that, new people new stories to hear new interests, it is upwards and onwards not stick in the same old mud. Being or feeling alone does make you dwell on things, "hey" you have friends on here.
Frank.
Sorry you feel so frustrated, MMP, but I can't help wondering if the fuel for your crosscountry excursions in the Landrover doesn't cost you a bomb.
We used to have a '75 Series II Carawagon and it guzzled, but in those days fuel was cheap.
My fuel costs 15p a litre, OH makes it from waste veg oil from a school that would otherwise go to landfill. Otherwise I couldn't afford to run a land rover! He's also an engineer, so if anything goes wrong, he gets to fix it. He loves it when the sun's shining, but when it gets temperamental during winter, there's a lot of swearing. First lot is from me when I've told him X times something's wrong, the rest of it from him as he fixes it. I did, however, rebuild the axle on the off-roader when we needed it, under his direction - before we had children, and before I had ME. I used to be able to swap all 4 wheels on it in 20 minutes, road-biased tyres to get where we were going, and knobbly bobbly tyres for playing in the mud.
My ME is playing up the past couple of weeks, thought I was getting better (I am MUCH better than I was), trouble is, you do too much and it comes back and bites you in the bum. I guess I'm just feeling a bit sorry for myself, I will feel better when I can get out and potter around on my own, instead of having a grumpy 2 year old and off-colour 4 year old fighting with each other and screeching like banshees.
Sorry to hear the ME is playing up, MMP. You have such a positive approach to life as a rule and seem to get so much done, despite your health problems. Young children get everyone down from time to time, however adorable they are when they are asleep! I have to admit that (many moons ago) I hated being at home and isolated, with a young child and living among people that I did not find particularly congenial. Strikes me that you and your OH are unconventional people, doing interesting things that most people would not think of - like making your own fuel. Sometimes, being more go-ahead than others or having different values is quite isolating. (Hope this isn't offensive!!)
I find your attitude and your posts attractive, appealing and admirable and I think other people do, too. I really hope you run across a friend in the village who shares your sense of adventure and your sense of fun!
Stick with us MMP -we'll all keep you right
I'm off to work. Catch up later
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
MMP, I totally agree with Gardening Grandma, I've enjoyed going back over older posts and have enjoyed reading yours.
I'd rather be Barbara Good than Margo. Hope your health starts to improve soon.
Love your site name. Had considered calling myself Muck Magnet,as that's what I am.
Mummy MP, Told you that there were friends on here you can pour it out when down and know we listen
The problem with ME is half the doctors do not believe it and the other half have no idea what it is, it is very real yet not much done on the research side. I did see there could soon be a blood test only the patient has to be stressed before it can be taken?
I love my young grandchildren but they go home at night, they could be stressful in larger doses.
"Oh well" a lovely sunny day here greenhouse open both ends and I will be out there after I have written my speech for Daughters Wedding Sunday. She asked if I had written it yet I said yes although when I took out all the bad language it was "Hello goodbye" I can see it now, "he is not going to show us all up!!! again?
Well yes that is what dads do, they bring them back down to earth from their over the rainbow moments and clip their wings and ears if need be.
After my last speech the best man stood up and said "I cannot follow that" and sat down again, there had been a lot of laughter, "err" I do not know if it was with me or at me.
Frank.
Where can i see replies to my questions please
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