As I said earlier, I thanked all the comments made about a plant that I was new to. Normally I would take my chances with general book knowledge but I saw a thread and read what was posted which I found useful, but for that a poster came on to deride what was written. That is not what I expect and I believe it not what newcomers expect either. This forum is dominated by a clique of people who speak to each other like they live next door yet totally ignore anyone else as though they are not there. They do not include anyone who is not in their 'circle'.
Verdun, you are the most knowlegeable and experienced gardener on this forum and I often refer people to you. I consider that helpful.
..actually Digger I would consider your last sentence to be clicky, the very thing that you are objecting to, as what you are doing there is singling out one member as being over and above all others... so if you ask a question, no point anyone else responding to you then...?....
I made a lot of new friends here when I needed it most. I don't see cliques, but I do see people seeking something, sometimes gardening advice, sometimes other things.
Salino, you actually think that by referring someone to another forum contributor who you know to have the answer is 'clicky' then you are totally missing the point too. How is helping someone 'clicky'??? A clique is a small exclusive group. Not an individual who directs another to the place they need. Think what I am saying!!! Stop being apologists!
I joined this forum in April/May of this year and at no point have I detected any cliques Digger. I was welcomed warmly,have been given invaluable advice (freely given) and have generally felt that my presence here was valued.
I am by no means an experienced gardener, still very much a novice but never have I been made to feel a lesser person for it. Quite the reverse in fact. I owe these good people a great deal and feel more than a little hurt on their behalf. In cliques they certainly are not. And that's from a relative 'newbie'.
Digger, if that was the canna thread, the person who said advice was given on GW and "here we go again" has only posted 24 times in the last year or so. Hardly cliquey!I don't think she meant any harm as she put a smiley after her remark. That thread was started 2 years ago. I think most people here are friendly and like gardening, whether expert or not.
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Salino, you actually think that by referring someone to another forum contributor who you know to have the answer is 'clicky' then you are totally missing the point too. How is helping someone 'clicky'??? A clique is a small exclusive group. Not an individual who directs another to the place they need. Think what I am saying!!! Stop being apologists!
...well..yes I do, in this case, as you think that it's only that person that can provide you with the answer - that's clicky....
Verdun tries very hard, but I wouldn't want his opinion on Bamboo's or Roses... lol..
...once you start singling out people then you're getting real clicky...
Lizzy, you seem to know one of the posts I refer to. I wasn't here 2yrs ago and I dare say many others were not also. So the 'freely given' advice does come with derisive remarks and makes a mockery of those that have just posted how benign and helpful the posts are.
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As I said earlier, I thanked all the comments made about a plant that I was new to. Normally I would take my chances with general book knowledge but I saw a thread and read what was posted which I found useful, but for that a poster came on to deride what was written. That is not what I expect and I believe it not what newcomers expect either. This forum is dominated by a clique of people who speak to each other like they live next door yet totally ignore anyone else as though they are not there. They do not include anyone who is not in their 'circle'.
Verdun, you are the most knowlegeable and experienced gardener on this forum and I often refer people to you. I consider that helpful.
Wouldnt it be a boring world we lived in if everyone was the same and everyone was perfect?
Not everyone uses one thing for the same thing. We have to respect what other people decide to use the forum for.
It's not causing anyone any actual harm.
..actually Digger I would consider your last sentence to be clicky, the very thing that you are objecting to, as what you are doing there is singling out one member as being over and above all others... so if you ask a question, no point anyone else responding to you then...?....
I made a lot of new friends here when I needed it most. I don't see cliques, but I do see people seeking something, sometimes gardening advice, sometimes other things.
Salino, you actually think that by referring someone to another forum contributor who you know to have the answer is 'clicky' then you are totally missing the point too. How is helping someone 'clicky'??? A clique is a small exclusive group. Not an individual who directs another to the place they need. Think what I am saying!!! Stop being apologists!
I joined this forum in April/May of this year and at no point have I detected any cliques Digger. I was welcomed warmly,have been given invaluable advice (freely given) and have generally felt that my presence here was valued.
I am by no means an experienced gardener, still very much a novice but never have I been made to feel a lesser person for it. Quite the reverse in fact. I owe these good people a great deal and feel more than a little hurt on their behalf. In cliques they certainly are not. And that's from a relative 'newbie'.
I suppose the truth is, however many threads and subjects there are on the forum, sometimes it doesn't provide what someone is looking for
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Digger, if that was the canna thread, the person who said advice was given on GW and "here we go again" has only posted 24 times in the last year or so. Hardly cliquey!I don't think she meant any harm as she put a smiley after her remark. That thread was started 2 years ago. I think most people here are friendly and like gardening, whether expert or not.
...well..yes I do, in this case, as you think that it's only that person that can provide you with the answer - that's clicky....
Verdun tries very hard, but I wouldn't want his opinion on Bamboo's or Roses... lol..
...once you start singling out people then you're getting real clicky...
Lizzy, you seem to know one of the posts I refer to. I wasn't here 2yrs ago and I dare say many others were not also. So the 'freely given' advice does come with derisive remarks and makes a mockery of those that have just posted how benign and helpful the posts are.