I always have to edit my posts down. I don't mind long answers, but I really hate long questions, and I often just move on to the next after a couple of rambling lines, 'Get tot he point or I walk'. I get enough of those at work, at least I can butt in there though.
Oh, I'm so glad to hear someone else say that. That has always been my motto. Unreasonable people are by definition, unreasonable. There's not going to be a good outcome no matter what, it's disaster management. All you can do is stay neutral, stay out of their radar, and above all do not try to teach them a lesson no matter how tactfully and no matter how much you think it's going to benefit them. They're just too blooming thick to realise.
I'm too slow at typing to ask a long question or give a long answer
Everyone would have gone to bed before I got there
, unfortunately I touch type, so I can ramble as much when I'm typing as when I'm talking on the phone. And you get malaprops, spoonerisms and the odd word or phrase someone in the background was saying. It's a curse.
What a shame - having nasty neighbours can seriously upset one's enjoyment of a garden. Last weekend, the fence between our drive and our neighbour's blew down - the posts had rotted at the bottom. Our poor neighbour spent the day replacing them, and mending the fence panels, plank by plank, and even came round our side with a pot of fence paint (to match our own colour) and painted our side - all the time being buffeted by a strong wind. As a result, there is downstairs a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine and a thank you card, on which we volunteered to go halves should the day come when he decides his fence is only good for firewood. We so much appreciate his hard work, especially as my OH is not well, and it takes him a long time to get round to jobs like that. Tried to deliver it Friday but they weren't in. This thread has reminded me to try again today. Fortunately all of us in this row have children, and there is an unspoken 'chuckback' arrangement, although I am not always sure which toys are ours or theirs. I think there is a gulf between the understanding of the role of a garden of parents and gardeners. People with children see a garden as a play area, for letting off steam, and forget that for others, a garden is a place of calm and contemplation. But there is no excuse not to pay for serious damage done to property, such as a greenhouse. Most of the damage here is done by our own inmates.
BB2 - that's the kind of neighbour who's worth their weight in gold, but sadly they are few and far between. At least you appreciate the fact - unlike many others. My problem here is that some people think my garden is their children's play area, and seem to believe I have no right to tell them otherwise. Jim - unreasonable doesn't even begin to cover it.
A situation when I was out for dinner with my girls last week highlighted again the way many people view their children's behaviour.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
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Zoomer - good people skills!!!
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
I'm too slow at typing to ask a long question or give a long answer
Everyone would have gone to bed before I got there
In the sticks near Peterborough
Oh, I'm so glad to hear someone else say that. That has always been my motto. Unreasonable people are by definition, unreasonable. There's not going to be a good outcome no matter what, it's disaster management. All you can do is stay neutral, stay out of their radar, and above all do not try to teach them a lesson no matter how tactfully and no matter how much you think it's going to benefit them. They're just too blooming thick to realise.
Yes, I touch type too so that's why I ramble on so .........................
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
But in the nicest way Dove.
What a shame - having nasty neighbours can seriously upset one's enjoyment of a garden. Last weekend, the fence between our drive and our neighbour's blew down - the posts had rotted at the bottom. Our poor neighbour spent the day replacing them, and mending the fence panels, plank by plank, and even came round our side with a pot of fence paint (to match our own colour) and painted our side - all the time being buffeted by a strong wind. As a result, there is downstairs a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine and a thank you card, on which we volunteered to go halves should the day come when he decides his fence is only good for firewood. We so much appreciate his hard work, especially as my OH is not well, and it takes him a long time to get round to jobs like that. Tried to deliver it Friday but they weren't in. This thread has reminded me to try again today. Fortunately all of us in this row have children, and there is an unspoken 'chuckback' arrangement, although I am not always sure which toys are ours or theirs. I think there is a gulf between the understanding of the role of a garden of parents and gardeners. People with children see a garden as a play area, for letting off steam, and forget that for others, a garden is a place of calm and contemplation. But there is no excuse not to pay for serious damage done to property, such as a greenhouse. Most of the damage here is done by our own inmates.
BB2 - that's the kind of neighbour who's worth their weight in gold, but sadly they are few and far between. At least you appreciate the fact - unlike many others. My problem here is that some people think my garden is their children's play area, and seem to believe I have no right to tell them otherwise. Jim - unreasonable doesn't even begin to cover it.
A situation when I was out for dinner with my girls last week highlighted again the way many people view their children's behaviour.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...