Thanks to 'some' people offering helpful advice. I'm actually only 20, and im asking for advice because I perhaps don't have the life experience that others have behind them. The tree doesn't belong to me, it belongs to my parents, but I'm taking the initative to ask other gardeners who may have been in a similar situation, as my parents don't really know what to do with it either (at least they're doing something with it, and wanting to crop it rather than leave the fruit to rot on the ground, which I see so often!). Yes, we can all learn for hindsight, but life isn't a dress rehearsal, you make mistakes and learn from them. I don't want some sad person giving me a lecture about how to garden and how not to, you can garden how you like, after all, the tree is ours, not yours. Isn't this what this forum is all about? Giving and taking advice? After all everyone started somewhere, you can't learn everything the day you popped out into this world. Perhaps you should be a bit more respectful of that. (Pointing the finger towards SD - comparing this to your rescue dogs is a bit extreme, it's a TREE.)
In terms of the tree itself, I'll get my dad to saw it off and go and buy some sealant, if that's what you recommend. I'm sad that after such a good year we'll lose so much crop (because my dad wont be able to make as much chutney!), but I think we'd rather that than lose the tree to disease over the winter. In the future, I'm sure that we'll prop the tree up and thin it out.
Thanks again for all those who gave helpful advice. I won't let grumpy people deter me from gardening, after all, I'm the next generation, or deter me from this forum in fact, because there seems to be helpful people on here willing to share experiences and advice.
If I'd had that kind of reception on joining - I would never have come back and I would have missed all the lovely, kind, helpful people on here - many of whom are like a little family. I hope you continue to ask questions - and continue to enjoy gardening. It's what most of us here do with a few breaks for chat and cake!
I've always said to my children- it's the intelligent people who ask questions- after all, it's how to find out the answers. Good luck with your tree.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I could offer no advice Hover, unlike the other pleasant posters and am so glad you feel able to return. I have to say it's really good to hear that someone so young has an interest in gardening. I think we all agree that it is very theraputic, even when we are cursing that we wished we had never started certain jobs.
Hoverfly, I discovered the "ignore " button next to the avatars. Anyone unpleasant you can just obliterate.
I have 50 years experience of gardening. I still make mistakes. The person who never made a mistake never did anything. Sometimes mother nature just gets the better of us.
Most important, the opinions offered on here are just that. Opinions. Anyone is entitled to one, but some people think that theres is the only valid one. As I said. Obliterate.
i have to say that gardening is always a learning curve.. never mind how long you been doing it.. we can all go read up what is best for our area etc etc.. i get plants that the label says it likes sun.. but it hates it and loves shady.. so it is only by doing it we learn it.. and if you never ask you never know.
i was told we learn something everyday.. well most of us anyway.. so i look forward to this.. i have been gardening for years and my grandad as top shower..but i make mistakes all the time and some silly ones really.. but hey that is the joy of gardening, some grow some dont some do much better than you ever thought and some dont as well as you thought..
i love this about gardening and enjoy it every year and will continue to do so.
and for tose who come on here for advice for hteir gardens or family or friends gardens.. doesnt mean they are wrong or deserve the response they got.. it would make me feel very offended and that all my years were for nothing..no one has the right to write with such tone or venom to another poster on here.. and practically say they are stupid.. no one!!
yes nut.. and not only in gardening advice either.. i do other forums and people on those get nasty just because you dont hold their views... no need what so ever to talk to people that way when asking simple question.
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Thanks to 'some' people offering helpful advice. I'm actually only 20, and im asking for advice because I perhaps don't have the life experience that others have behind them. The tree doesn't belong to me, it belongs to my parents, but I'm taking the initative to ask other gardeners who may have been in a similar situation, as my parents don't really know what to do with it either (at least they're doing something with it, and wanting to crop it rather than leave the fruit to rot on the ground, which I see so often!). Yes, we can all learn for hindsight, but life isn't a dress rehearsal, you make mistakes and learn from them. I don't want some sad person giving me a lecture about how to garden and how not to, you can garden how you like, after all, the tree is ours, not yours. Isn't this what this forum is all about? Giving and taking advice? After all everyone started somewhere, you can't learn everything the day you popped out into this world. Perhaps you should be a bit more respectful of that. (Pointing the finger towards SD - comparing this to your rescue dogs is a bit extreme, it's a TREE.)
In terms of the tree itself, I'll get my dad to saw it off and go and buy some sealant, if that's what you recommend. I'm sad that after such a good year we'll lose so much crop (because my dad wont be able to make as much chutney!), but I think we'd rather that than lose the tree to disease over the winter. In the future, I'm sure that we'll prop the tree up and thin it out.
Thanks again for all those who gave helpful advice. I won't let grumpy people deter me from gardening, after all, I'm the next generation, or deter me from this forum in fact, because there seems to be helpful people on here willing to share experiences and advice.
Hover- good to see you back.
If I'd had that kind of reception on joining - I would never have come back and I would have missed all the lovely, kind, helpful people on here - many of whom are like a little family. I hope you continue to ask questions - and continue to enjoy gardening. It's what most of us here do with a few breaks for chat and cake!
I've always said to my children- it's the intelligent people who ask questions- after all, it's how to find out the answers. Good luck with your tree.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I could offer no advice Hover, unlike the other pleasant posters and am so glad you feel able to return. I have to say it's really good to hear that someone so young has an interest in gardening. I think we all agree that it is very theraputic, even when we are cursing that we wished we had never started certain jobs.
Hope to hear more from you. Keep coming back.
Trust you FG to get in first.
Hoverfly, I discovered the "ignore " button next to the avatars. Anyone unpleasant you can just obliterate.
I have 50 years experience of gardening. I still make mistakes. The person who never made a mistake never did anything. Sometimes mother nature just gets the better of us.
Most important, the opinions offered on here are just that. Opinions. Anyone is entitled to one, but some people think that theres is the only valid one. As I said. Obliterate.
Note to self. Must try to ask some intelligent questions..
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i have to say that gardening is always a learning curve.. never mind how long you been doing it.. we can all go read up what is best for our area etc etc.. i get plants that the label says it likes sun.. but it hates it and loves shady.. so it is only by doing it we learn it.. and if you never ask you never know.
i was told we learn something everyday.. well most of us anyway.. so i look forward to this.. i have been gardening for years and my grandad as top shower..but i make mistakes all the time and some silly ones really.. but hey that is the joy of gardening, some grow some dont some do much better than you ever thought and some dont as well as you thought..
i love this about gardening and enjoy it every year and will continue to do so.
and for tose who come on here for advice for hteir gardens or family or friends gardens.. doesnt mean they are wrong or deserve the response they got.. it would make me feel very offended and that all my years were for nothing..no one has the right to write with such tone or venom to another poster on here.. and practically say they are stupid.. no one!!
You're right gardeningfantic, there are plenty of ways to help people (and even to tell them they're wrong) without being offensive.
In the sticks near Peterborough
yes nut.. and not only in gardening advice either.. i do other forums and people on those get nasty just because you dont hold their views... no need what so ever to talk to people that way when asking simple question.