That is exactly the way I feel too. I am not sure that I will bother posting again even though I am still going to stay with it. After all I have been a member since this site replaced the old BBC Gardener's world one.
Those of you who have access to the editor's email address might like to draw this thread to his attention before other members do the same and leave.
@gjautos I completely understand your feelings and don't blame you in the slightest. However, this last week does appear to be unusual for this forum, so maybe you might hang around and observe a little while longer to see if this is dealt with properly, as I am doing, before giving up on what is otherwise an invaluable source of advice.
If you leave a forum or any other internet group because one person has annoyed you, you won't stay long on any. There is a way to ignore those members you don't wish to interact with.
OK @fairygirl and @CharlotteF - I've found this morning's little set to. Nasty, nasty, nasty.
Such a shame that one person can do so much damage. We have, however, seen it all before over the years and (generally speaking) if nobody responds to the perpetrator's posts - both the nice, calm ones and the nasty ones - they eventually get fed up talking to themselves and go away.
It's more difficult to do that when they're giving wrong information of course.
It's what I shall be doing from now on. In fact I think I may have been doing it for a few days...
Heaven is ... sitting in the garden with a G&T and a cat while watching the sun go down
The difference with this one is something that @punkdoc highlighted. The usual WUMs Flamers and Trolls have very little gardening input, and if they do , it's fairly innocuous. This is unlike anything else we've had here, and has had a serious impact. It's also very simplistic to suggest people just ignore this person when they're turning up on threads where new members are seeking help ,and it becomes a sh**fest very quickly. I'm not comfortable with that at all, and I'm certainly not comfortable with being told I'm an abuser when I've personally been on the receiving end of serious mental and physical abuse.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
As a member of many forums over the years, i've seen it all. It's maybe easy for me to say, but try not to take it personally. It isn't you the actual person being insulted, but just an internet persona that is being insulted. If you take it personally the troll wins. If you can, keep on correcting their bad advice and report them every time you get abuse. Don't react to it.
It's true, I belonged to a forum where one member seemed to go out of their way to be obnoxious. So all the members decided no one would answer or react to any of that person's posts anymore. They must have been furious and stamping their feet when not one person engaged with them and just ignored what ever the member had to say. After a couple of weeks we didn't hear a squeak, must have got bored by getting no reaction. The old saying stands 'if you can't say anything nice, say nothing at all'.
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We need people like you @Palustris.
I'm beyond furious.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
@gjautos I completely understand your feelings and don't blame you in the slightest. However, this last week does appear to be unusual for this forum, so maybe you might hang around and observe a little while longer to see if this is dealt with properly, as I am doing, before giving up on what is otherwise an invaluable source of advice.
Such a shame that one person can do so much damage. We have, however, seen it all before over the years and (generally speaking) if nobody responds to the perpetrator's posts - both the nice, calm ones and the nasty ones - they eventually get fed up talking to themselves and go away.
It's more difficult to do that when they're giving wrong information of course.
It's what I shall be doing from now on. In fact I think I may have been doing it for a few days...
It's also very simplistic to suggest people just ignore this person when they're turning up on threads where new members are seeking help ,and it becomes a sh**fest very quickly.
I'm not comfortable with that at all, and I'm certainly not comfortable with being told I'm an abuser when I've personally been on the receiving end of serious mental and physical abuse.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
It's maybe easy for me to say, but try not to take it personally.
It isn't you the actual person being insulted, but just an internet persona that is being insulted. If you take it personally the troll wins. If you can, keep on correcting their bad advice and report them every time you get abuse. Don't react to it.
The old saying stands 'if you can't say anything nice, say nothing at all'.