Fewer folk documenting every moment of their lives on social media even 12 years ago @steveTu … and even some professionals were unaware of how the photos can be forwarded and forwarded and forwarded … running the risk of the wrong person spotting them and tracing them back.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
That’s right Dove, my daughter’s in childcare too. She takes photos of their achievements and places she’s taken them too, but never shows them to anyone other than parents.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Lyn,which post did I loose you,? Talking of making eye contact illegal,in the paper a couple of days ago, woman complained a man looked at her bum without her permission!! I don't think she would have given it.
I assume she meant in public while wearing clothes rather than hiding in her cupboard and watching her getting changed or something? I'd love to hear that conversation. "Excuse me, miss, would you mind awfully if I ogled your backside for a moment?"
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
I suppose as I casually said hello as I walked past the trolley, the mother instantly though ‘Killer granny, there’s a perv if ever I saw one’
That's not what you did, you said your spoke to the kid not the patent. Everyone is talking like there's no difference. Talk to the parent is acceptable but immediately going to the kid seems a bit different to me. I'm sure most parents in recent times have had strange encounters with adults talking to their kids in a way they do not like. I know I certainly have. The kids too have a right to feel uncomfortable with strangers talking to them. Is it right or wrong to believe your views on this are right and the parent/child's not? The child spitting on you seems excessive but could that not be a sign they're uncomfortable with your approach.
I just expressed that imho it's a little strange to go to the kid without engaging the parent first.
Near where I worked last week two men tried you kidnap two young kids but got stopped by some dog walkers. Two men were arrested. I guess I'm more conscious of how things can appear to parents and kids right now.
Although I doubt you're a murderer but that isn't the point really, it's about whether the attitudes of the past with communities that no longer exist as they once did are always appropriate. It's nothing to do with social media.
There's an element of news media reporting incidents of child abuse and missing kids with salacious detail such that people think it's more prevalent now. That's been going on for decades. That doesn't mean it's wrong to talk to kids just perhaps its about getting a rapport or connection with the parent before initiating conversation with the kids.
Still think teaching kids to spit at people even if they were uncomfortable with the adult's approach is wrong and weird.
Maybe I'm just fortunate but, even as a bloke, I've never met with a negative reaction from any interaction with children. I regularly call into our local garden centre for a coffee and more often than not there are mothers there with children sat in high chairs. At that age they are naturally inquisitive, looking round at everything. If one looks at me I will always give a little wave, and generally get one back. More often than not 'mum' will look to see who they are waving at but have never said 'don't interact with my child'.
@KT53. Exactly. I feel sorry for people who are so paranoid, that they'd worry about some old git like me smiling at/saying hello to their kids as they go by.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I had a copper friend who told me that her female police colleague who had been involved with the processing of him after a complaint and arrest in Yorkshire felt very uncomfortable with the body language of the guy. She said whatever the goals he has with personal freedom he was still a pervert towards her colleague. BTW the female colleague got replaced with a male colleague in the room and behaviour changed.
Obviously second or third hand but my view was weirdo but harmless until the copper friend let us know a bit more. It was clear she was only giving half the story too.
Aiui naked rambling is part of a movement about healthy, outdoor lifestyle in Germany. In the UK I guess we're a bit prudish here. I don't have an issue with it but if naked rambling is your thing I suspect its best not to get too close to the naked rambler if you're fighting for acceptance.
it's a little strange to go to the kid without engaging the parent first.
I disagree. Children, especially young ones, are far more likely to make eye contact than the parents, and it's the eye contact that you respond to, with a smile or a silly face or a 'hello'. If an adult makes eye contact, I'll smile just the same, but it happens less often. A shy child has the self protection instinct to not make eye contact, but imho, the more positive feedback they get from being brave enough to risk a quick look is good for their development as part of society. Teaching a child to react with hostility, whether verbal or physical, to a passing encounter is to seriously damage their ability to develop normal social relationships.
Making eye contact with a strange dog is entirely more risky.
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She takes photos of their achievements and places she’s taken them too, but never shows them to anyone other than parents.
I just expressed that imho it's a little strange to go to the kid without engaging the parent first.
Near where I worked last week two men tried you kidnap two young kids but got stopped by some dog walkers. Two men were arrested. I guess I'm more conscious of how things can appear to parents and kids right now.
Although I doubt you're a murderer but that isn't the point really, it's about whether the attitudes of the past with communities that no longer exist as they once did are always appropriate. It's nothing to do with social media.
There's an element of news media reporting incidents of child abuse and missing kids with salacious detail such that people think it's more prevalent now. That's been going on for decades. That doesn't mean it's wrong to talk to kids just perhaps its about getting a rapport or connection with the parent before initiating conversation with the kids.
Still think teaching kids to spit at people even if they were uncomfortable with the adult's approach is wrong and weird.
I feel sorry for people who are so paranoid, that they'd worry about some old git like me smiling at/saying hello to their kids as they go by.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Obviously second or third hand but my view was weirdo but harmless until the copper friend let us know a bit more. It was clear she was only giving half the story too.
Aiui naked rambling is part of a movement about healthy, outdoor lifestyle in Germany. In the UK I guess we're a bit prudish here. I don't have an issue with it but if naked rambling is your thing I suspect its best not to get too close to the naked rambler if you're fighting for acceptance.
Making eye contact with a strange dog is entirely more risky.
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
"Very offensive comment IMO.
'The power of accurate observation .... is commonly called cynicism by those that have not got it.
George Bernard Shaw'