I'm quite a solitary person anyway and love to garden by myself. My husband is also not really interested but will help out with jobs needing extra muscle and I do like it when he's out in the garden doing something - but only because it's a rarity - I wouldn't want him there always.
I'm very much like you, my husband's the same. He has taken more of an interest in my indoor plants of late. But on the whole when it comes to gardening I prefer the solitude. Its a time when I can quiet my mind and concentrate on the tasks at hand.
Plus I love talking to my plants or humming whilst I garden and don't think it would go down well in public! ☺️
My OH also only does the heavy stuff and I usually get to garden on my own but I was just thinking how strange it is that I am so anti social in this one area of my life. Sounds like a lot of us like our quiet time in the garden.
I like it when hubs comes out to help, he spent two hours pulling weeds out of the strawberries today while I hoed some other weeds. Sometimes friends come and join in on bush cutting they get bored in their flat. Our neighbours are all over 100m away we wave when we see each-other but that's about it, two of them came round to buy some potatoes today and one yesterday so I do talk to them on occasion, other than that I wave at people in their tractors as they go past, I'm sure they know me by my arse stuck up in the air as I fiddle more than my face!
I'm a sociable type, will say hello to passers by whilst on the plot and stand and chat but usually have a rough plan of what I want to do, even if it's just to pick some strawberries, veg and flowers so also like the quiet time and solitude of just pottering about and listening to the birds and bee's.
There's something calming about noticing all the wild life both great and small whilst digging or weeding.
Thinking about it I don’t like “help” when I am cooking either . People know to stay out of the kitchen when I am dishing up a meal. Only exception is OH but he is a chef so I sometimes need his advice/ help.
Definitely a solitary gardener here! I don't want help, or company, it's fundamental for me to do it alone. I like to share the garden with other people - show them things, point stuff out, sit with them in it, talk about it - but not the actual gardening. When we moved here with a baby and a toddler I thought it would be lovely to garden with them as they grew. Turns out that while I spent lots of time with them *in* the garden, I just couldn't garden with them! I more or less didn't garden for about 8 years. When I volunteer in community garden projects etc it's completely different, I enjoy doing that alongside other people. But my own garden and my gardening is sanctuary, meditation, solitary.
'If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.'
I love gardening in company but only if they are actually helping... anyone leaning over the fence can get five minutes but I will soon start stooping to pick weeds or dead head something...
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Plus I love talking to my plants or humming whilst I garden and don't think it would go down well in public! ☺️
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
There's something calming about noticing all the wild life both great and small whilst digging or weeding.
On the flip side, I have no saucepans etc... they're all his 😁.
Very true debs. To me my garden is not hard work, but my sanctuary. The peace and quiet of just me and my plants is priceless. 🌱💚
When we moved here with a baby and a toddler I thought it would be lovely to garden with them as they grew. Turns out that while I spent lots of time with them *in* the garden, I just couldn't garden with them! I more or less didn't garden for about 8 years.
When I volunteer in community garden projects etc it's completely different, I enjoy doing that alongside other people. But my own garden and my gardening is sanctuary, meditation, solitary.