I hope he went peacefully Fairygirl, that's all we can ask for really. My parents and parents-in-law, are all still going in their own homes, all in their 80s. My father in law will be 89 on Christmas Day. I must be honest, l have no idea what the future holds, l know my mum always said she didn't want to go into a home, but if anything happened to my dad, there's no way l could look after her, much as l love her. My nan died in the late 80s, but l always feel she's keeping an eye on me !
My parents spent their last four/five years being cared for together in a lovely nursing home staffed by saints. I couldn’t have cared for them anything like as well as they were looked after. If the alternative is being on my own in a bed or chair 24/7 being visited four times a day to be fed and toileted as was the case with our elderly neighbour, then please put me in a home.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
About 20 years ago an old schoolfriend told me that another of our schoolfriends had been found dead in his flat, along with his dog. Post Mortem suggested he'd been dead for 3 months.
When I was engaged to my ex, she lived with her grandfather and she found him dead in bed when she got back from a day's shopping with her sister. Mercifully she wasn't alone and her sister was with her.
Our neighbour was a very independant lady, never wanting to 'put on' other people. Over the final 12 months or so she became less mobile and was then willing to ask for a lift to the doctor or to the local nursery to get plants for the pots in the front garden. She even watched over me to ensure I got the planting right.
As she sometimes spent the weekend with her son and his family, nobody thought anything of it when we didn't see her on the Monday. Alarm bells rang loud on the Tuesday morning when her hairdresser arrived and got no reply. Our neighbour had a set of keys for our house and we had the same for hers. When I went in it was immediately obvious that something wasn't right, nothing specific just that 'feeling'. I called her and got no reply so went up the stairs and saw her on the floor beside her bed.
At least she was at home right to the end, as had been her husband who died a couple of years earlier. That for me was the only positive.
Absolutely, KT - it could all be so much worse. I get teary when I think about it, and wish I could have been there sooner, but that's how it is. My Dad was a very independant person, and didn't relish too much 'interference' day to day. I'm my father's daughter
So that we don't risk getting terribly maudlin, I'll 'lighten' the mood a little with some curmudgeonliness from today. What the **** is wrong with those people who don't indicate at roundabouts, or thank you when you let them out of junctions? Twuts. 😡
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Like people who pull out in front of you, knowing full well you are there, but think if they don't look at you, you therefore don't exist. When people don't indicate at roundabouts, l invoke the Jasper Carrot joke - "It's alright mate, l've got a crystal ball here. Halford's."
Being a pdestrian, I know the problem of drivers who don't indicate all too well.
Between my house and the park is a junction with two roads feeding into it. A sharp right, a right bend, and the straight on. The amount of drivers that don't bother indicating to take the right bend is ridiculous. After nearly being killed I don't chance it any longer. I won't cross until I know for sure the driver is going straight on.
I wish I was a glow worm A glow worm's never glum Cos how can you be grumpy When the sun shines out your bum!
Never trust indicators. They might have forgotten to turn them off. I 've avoided being hit by articulated lorries more than once by ignorant their indicators until it's obvious that they're manoeuvring
IMHO the most inconsiderate drivers are those dropping off/ collecting kids from primary schools. They assume everyone else around them is doing the same and can just abandon their cars wherever they like without any consideration for other drivers who actually need to pass by.
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My nan died in the late 80s, but l always feel she's keeping an eye on me !
If the alternative is being on my own in a bed or chair 24/7 being visited four times a day to be fed and toileted as was the case with our elderly neighbour, then please put me in a home.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Post Mortem suggested he'd been dead for 3 months.
When I was engaged to my ex, she lived with her grandfather and she found him dead in bed when she got back from a day's shopping with her sister. Mercifully she wasn't alone and her sister was with her.
I get teary when I think about it, and wish I could have been there sooner, but that's how it is. My Dad was a very independant person, and didn't relish too much 'interference' day to day. I'm my father's daughter
So that we don't risk getting terribly maudlin, I'll 'lighten' the mood a little with some curmudgeonliness from today.
What the **** is wrong with those people who don't indicate at roundabouts, or thank you when you let them out of junctions?
Twuts. 😡
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Between my house and the park is a junction with two roads feeding into it. A sharp right, a right bend, and the straight on. The amount of drivers that don't bother indicating to take the right bend is ridiculous. After nearly being killed I don't chance it any longer. I won't cross until I know for sure the driver is going straight on.
A glow worm's never glum
Cos how can you be grumpy
When the sun shines out your bum!