When I was younger and living in a London suburb, I caught two children attempting to burgle my shed. I marched them home to have a word with their parents. On opening the door, I explained what they had done and said I would overlook it this time, but if I caught them again, I would be calling the police. The response? "Go **** yourself, you stupid b****h..... what chance do they have???
A similar thing happened to my old neighbour. She went to have a word with the parents and got a barrage of abuse from the mother. My neighbour apologised to the child and sympathised FOR his misfortune. (yes really!!!)
LATER THAT DAY.....
Turns out "old neighbour's" husband is a VIP in certain circles and well known by the father of the child!!! Clearly mummy had been telling daddy the story and daddy virtually crawled on his hands and knees to apologise profusely both for his child AND his wife!
There is clearly an issue with poor parenting in many cases, but it is also possible that sometimes, (perhaps in the example KT53 gives?) that there could be a medical cause, such as autism or ADHD, and that might make the parents especially defensive if they felt criticised.
The kids next door to me continually screamed, well the girl did. I made friends with them and then got my own back..I bought them a splash ball..balloon filled with water inside a ball with a timer which burst the balloon as you stood in a circle and passed it around ..hence wet parents
Later we went on to play water pistol pistol fights over the fence they cheated and bought a cannon thing & soaked me so I turned the hose on them.
Sadly they are now of an age where it isn't cool to talk to me if they have mates around Occasionally I do have a senior moment and spray them with the hose
The kids next door to me continually screamed, well the girl did. I made friends with them and then got my own back..I bought them a splash ball..balloon filled with water inside a ball with a timer which burst the balloon as you stood in a circle and passed it around ..hence wet parents
Later we went on to play water pistol pistol fights over the fence they cheated and bought a cannon thing & soaked me so I turned the hose on them.
Sadly they are now of an age where it isn't cool to talk to me if they have mates around Occasionally I do have a senior moment and spray them with the hose
Love it Kef ! i agree where possible make friends with the kids and engage with them, when mine were little we lived where lots of kids would gather together of an evening, it was even sensationalised in the local paper as 'aggro avenue' info kindly supplied by neighbour to the papers, actually made my buyer drop out of house purchase but that's another story, anyway it was all about these 'groups' of teenagers having the cheek to hang around the streets chatting, but they were never any trouble to me as if they were being loud all i had to do was go out and say to them' alright lads i'm not asking you to move but i have put my little boy to sleep would you mind keeping the noise down a bit?' invariably they would be really nice and move on anyway or keep the noise down, probably if i had gone moaning to the parents i wouldn't have had as much of a result.
That's a brilliant post KEF - we love it! If you can't beat them join them.....As we get older and don't have grandchildren I love to hear the children playing in the gardens nearby - & if you can join in too why not?Sometimes just offering them some cake/icecream/drink is all that is needed for you to become a friend rather than being the "enemy".
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When I was younger and living in a London suburb, I caught two children attempting to burgle my shed. I marched them home to have a word with their parents. On opening the door, I explained what they had done and said I would overlook it this time, but if I caught them again, I would be calling the police. The response? "Go **** yourself, you stupid b****h..... what chance do they have???
A similar thing happened to my old neighbour. She went to have a word with the parents and got a barrage of abuse from the mother. My neighbour apologised to the child and sympathised FOR his misfortune. (yes really!!!)
LATER THAT DAY.....
Turns out "old neighbour's" husband is a VIP in certain circles and well known by the father of the child!!! Clearly mummy had been telling daddy the story and daddy virtually crawled on his hands and knees to apologise profusely both for his child AND his wife!
RESULT!!!!
There is clearly an issue with poor parenting in many cases, but it is also possible that sometimes, (perhaps in the example KT53 gives?) that there could be a medical cause, such as autism or ADHD, and that might make the parents especially defensive if they felt criticised.
The kids next door to me continually screamed, well the girl did. I made friends with them and then got my own back..I bought them a splash ball..balloon filled with water inside a ball with a timer which burst the balloon as you stood in a circle and passed it around ..hence wet parents
Later we went on to play water pistol pistol fights over the fence
they cheated and bought a cannon thing & soaked me 
so I turned the hose on them.
Sadly they are now of an age where it isn't cool to talk to me if they have mates around
Occasionally I do have a senior moment and spray them with the hose
Last edited: 14 May 2016 17:31:32
That's a brilliant post KEF - we love it! If you can't beat them join them.....As we get older and don't have grandchildren I love to hear the children playing in the gardens nearby - & if you can join in too why not?Sometimes just offering them some cake/icecream/drink is all that is needed for you to become a friend rather than being the "enemy".