Zoomer, how awful for you. I feel guilty complaining about the dog chorus.
Is it possible to get what the neighbour is saying recorded? This is what my daughter was advised when she had problems. Also keep a record of when incidents take place and for how long. Most councils do have an anti-social complaint system. Give them a call.
One of the problems here is that if you are both owners rather than tenants, any complaint will have to be notified should you wish to sell, which you probably have no intention of doing anyway. If tenants, then I would think the landlord would be the first port of call, with evidence in place.
Do feel for you Zoomer. For many years I have been able to enjoy being in my garden during the summer as the then 'kids' had thoughtful parents who realised not everyone wanted to hear either them or their little cherubs shouting and screaming all day. How times have changed. I sometimes feel they are now in competition, coupled with the chickens and dogs!!
That is nothing compared to your plight. Let us know how you get on please.
tina turner .. get a dog whistle.. it works wonders.. we have them onthe cliff path yapping at 5am in the morning.. and owners do nothing to stop them..
zoomer.. that is not on.. maybe you should continue with the council/landlord and inform them you will take legal action if they dont do anything.. also try taking a small recording device out with you.. so as to get some evidence of his verbal abuse.
Recording is a very good idea but I'd tell him that you are doing it. The law is very strange about recording conversations without both parties knowing that it is happening.
I feel great sympathy for you. I lived for some time with this sort of problem. As did the other neighbours. Have you asked others if they are also the object of this man's attentions? He may need sectioning if it is widespread.
I realise just how lucky I am having such good neighbours either side. Was a bit if a worry when ex neighbours of 34 years moved on but have been so fortunate with the young family I now have.
Know you are more than capable Zoomer, but Googled and found this:
Keep a notebook documenting the verbal abuse. Write down the date and time of each incident, what was said and who was present to hear it, and any useful background information.
Get testimonies from people who witnessed the verbal abuse, either on a digital recorder or in writing. These testimonies will strengthen your case against the abuser.
Record the verbal abuse on a digital recorder
Let's hope you can resolve the problem soon.
Gardenfanatic. You have jogged my memory. Must get one asap and give it a try. Thanks.
I started doing that with the dog chorus but found I was spending so much time with pen and paper and getting quite neurotic! Trouble is, with cutbacks, the council aren't interested in dog barking and tell you to approach the owner. A lot of good that will do. One owner denied her dog barked!!
Zoomer that's a hellish situation for you but I'd agree with many of the comments here and log the incidents- you already have an official 'police record' from the story you told,and your friends information, so that's a good place to start. I was advised by police not to approach parents of 'feral children' (the 11 yr old going round on a trail bike) but to contact them on the new non emergency number 101 so perhaps that could be an avenue to go down. I'd definitely make it clear to him that you're going to record what he says to you. If you've got any kind of 'device' you can have in your hand while you say it, that might be enough to stop him without actually having to get a recorder. I'd also say it might be worth contacting social services. Can you ask other neighbours about him? They might have useful knowledge that could help you. If you're tenants rather than owners then the Landlord's a definite starting point.
Don't give up Zoomer. You have a right to enjoy your garden and have some peace and we're all here backing you too.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Zoomer really sorry for you. Do you have friends or someone who could be with youout in the garden next weekend so you also have a witness as to his abuse? Apart from that I would advise what everyone else has said. If it helps document it on here and print them off then at least you will have our support.
Hope you can soon sort out this horrible situation- big hug
I'm afraid I have to agree with the council about cutting back hedges hanging over pavements. Have you thought about babies in strollers. If parents are busy on their phones or chatting to friends then the poor child gets it in the face. It's amazing how quickly hedges grow.
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Zoomer, how awful for you. I feel guilty complaining about the dog chorus.
Is it possible to get what the neighbour is saying recorded? This is what my daughter was advised when she had problems. Also keep a record of when incidents take place and for how long. Most councils do have an anti-social complaint system. Give them a call.
One of the problems here is that if you are both owners rather than tenants, any complaint will have to be notified should you wish to sell, which you probably have no intention of doing anyway. If tenants, then I would think the landlord would be the first port of call, with evidence in place.
Do feel for you Zoomer. For many years I have been able to enjoy being in my garden during the summer as the then 'kids' had thoughtful parents who realised not everyone wanted to hear either them or their little cherubs shouting and screaming all day. How times have changed. I sometimes feel they are now in competition, coupled with the chickens and dogs!!
That is nothing compared to your plight. Let us know how you get on please.
tina turner .. get a dog whistle.. it works wonders.. we have them onthe cliff path yapping at 5am in the morning.. and owners do nothing to stop them..
zoomer.. that is not on.. maybe you should continue with the council/landlord and inform them you will take legal action if they dont do anything.. also try taking a small recording device out with you.. so as to get some evidence of his verbal abuse.
Recording is a very good idea but I'd tell him that you are doing it. The law is very strange about recording conversations without both parties knowing that it is happening.
I feel great sympathy for you. I lived for some time with this sort of problem. As did the other neighbours. Have you asked others if they are also the object of this man's attentions? He may need sectioning if it is widespread.
I realise just how lucky I am having such good neighbours either side. Was a bit if a worry when ex neighbours of 34 years moved on but have been so fortunate with the young family I now have.
Know you are more than capable Zoomer, but Googled and found this:
Let's hope you can resolve the problem soon.
Gardenfanatic. You have jogged my memory. Must get one asap and give it a try. Thanks.
Yes, definitely keep a diary of events. It is incredibly wearisome and emotionally draining but can prove to be very useful in the end.
I started doing that with the dog chorus but found I was spending so much time with pen and paper and getting quite neurotic! Trouble is, with cutbacks, the council aren't interested in dog barking and tell you to approach the owner. A lot of good that will do. One owner denied her dog barked!!
Zoomer that's a hellish situation for you but I'd agree with many of the comments here and log the incidents- you already have an official 'police record' from the story you told,and your friends information, so that's a good place to start. I was advised by police not to approach parents of 'feral children' (the 11 yr old going round on a trail bike) but to contact them on the new non emergency number 101 so perhaps that could be an avenue to go down. I'd definitely make it clear to him that you're going to record what he says to you. If you've got any kind of 'device' you can have in your hand while you say it, that might be enough to stop him without actually having to get a recorder. I'd also say it might be worth contacting social services. Can you ask other neighbours about him? They might have useful knowledge that could help you. If you're tenants rather than owners then the Landlord's a definite starting point.
Don't give up Zoomer. You have a right to enjoy your garden and have some peace and we're all here backing you too.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Zoomer really sorry for you. Do you have friends or someone who could be with youout in the garden next weekend so you also have a witness as to his abuse? Apart from that I would advise what everyone else has said. If it helps document it on here and print them off then at least you will have our support.
Hope you can soon sort out this horrible situation- big hug
I'm afraid I have to agree with the council about cutting back hedges hanging over pavements. Have you thought about babies in strollers. If parents are busy on their phones or chatting to friends then the poor child gets it in the face. It's amazing how quickly hedges grow.
Zoomed have you tried recording it, just a thought.