Losing a beloved pet is as hard, sometimes harder, as losing any other member of your family. They sometimes misbehave but, generally speaking, they offer unconditional love, companionship and a furry shoulder to cry into when the times get tough.
You know you looked after him well Grandma & he had a happy life with you. It won't harm your GC if they see how upset you are and you can say goodbye together as a family.
Looking after (& losing) pets is the perfect way to teach children about the ups, downs & responsibilties of life.
Best wishes at this painful time x
Heaven is ... sitting in the garden with a G&T and a cat while watching the sun go down
I understand Granma, I lost my cat that I had rescued a year and a half ago and I still think she's gonna come hopping up stairs, she had 3 legs. She was I'll over Christmas and we did everything to try and help her get better, cost a fortune and was worth every penny to know that we tried.
Its not about the length but the quality! Tess and Lucky were indeed lucky to be so very loved by you all and I'm sure they showed their gratitude in their responses to you
We managed to last a week without a cat, it wasn't that we wanted to replace Sorrow-puss, but we were lonely without her and thought she would approve of rescuing another little unwanted cat.
We now have had Harrie puss for a year and a half, she's very much part of the family and her character is totally unique to her, it helped us grieve to Harrie to care for and settle.
I know it feels impossible, but time soothes, thinking of you and your grandchildren
Lovely posts from all here and I can't add much except to say that death is as important for children to learn about as is birth. It's part of the inevitable cycle for all of us, and for our pets too, as well as plants and all living things.
That means grieving too and learning that we all grieve, that it is painful but that we cope with it somehow and that we can be happy again despite that. Eventually.
That won't ease the pain for you at the moment because it's still very acute, and it's testament to how much you loved your dog. Let your grandchildren share in that a little; let them learn about supporting each other and showing and receiving comfort and love.
My heart goes out to you. Its unfortunate, but our beloved pets are here for a good time, not a long time. I'm sure he had a lovely life with you and your family x
Hugs to you gran, we lost our beloved billy 15th May last year and then rocky pined so much for him, we lost rocky in June. Devastating - both a good age tho 20 and 16 respectively. Your pets Always have place in your heart. Thinking of you xxx
Lucky never got over losing tess our gs, he became very clingy after his grieving period .he would go lay on her grave .he knew I'm sure what was happening to her when she was ill .he never left her side.
I understand what your going through. I'm a huge Animal lover and have lost many pets over the years... I remember each and every one, even today. Some losses have been very hard to deal with and took a long time to feel at some level of ease.
When I was little I would chose a nice spot in the garden and my step-dad would dig a hole there, even if it meant lifting a plant (my mam never minded), and I'd put them in. I seemed to come up with the idea of going out and finding 'pretty stones' and I'd put them in those spots where they lay. It did make me feel better and while I was out "gardening" (I was just young, so that word is used loosely) I'd always go around and visit them all, making sure their special plant and pretty stones were looking good.
As I got older I got into keeping special photos, and these days I keep some in little albums and have others in frames.
There are some things I will always associate with some pets, especially plants. My first ever pet was a Hamster called Daisy, and when she died it was understandably hard for me because I was very young then, I'd never experienced that before. So that's when me and my mam started growing Sunflowers every year. Because they were giant Daisies : )
I have tete-a-tete Daffs that also have a deep meaning for me because, strange as it may seem, they're associated with a Royal Python I had who died as a baby. He was a sick boy who used to love to sleep down my bra (yes, really)... it calmed him and helped his breathing. When he died it was in July... a week later those little Daffs came up and flowered for the second time that year. I've never had that happen before or since and I always think it was him that did that. So I have lots of them now and they always make me smile : )
Maybe you could all chose a special plant to place in the garden or a special place like where he liked to be walked? Something you can visit and hopefully make you smile too.
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You know you looked after him well Grandma & he had a happy life with you. It won't harm your GC if they see how upset you are and you can say goodbye together as a family.
Looking after (& losing) pets is the perfect way to teach children about the ups, downs & responsibilties of life.
Best wishes at this painful time x
I understand Granma, I lost my cat that I had rescued a year and a half ago and I still think she's gonna come hopping up stairs, she had 3 legs. She was I'll over Christmas and we did everything to try and help her get better, cost a fortune and was worth every penny to know that we tried.
Its not about the length but the quality! Tess and Lucky were indeed lucky to be so very loved by you all and I'm sure they showed their gratitude in their responses to you
We managed to last a week without a cat, it wasn't that we wanted to replace Sorrow-puss, but we were lonely without her and thought she would approve of rescuing another little unwanted cat.
We now have had Harrie puss for a year and a half, she's very much part of the family and her character is totally unique to her, it helped us grieve to Harrie to care for and settle.
I know it feels impossible, but time soothes, thinking of you and your grandchildren
I am sorry for your loss Grandma.
The love and loyalty that dogs give, cannot be understood, I feel, until one has had a dog.
your dog was obviously very loved. I hope you and your grandkids will take solace from this.
Take care
Lovely posts from all here and I can't add much except to say that death is as important for children to learn about as is birth. It's part of the inevitable cycle for all of us, and for our pets too, as well as plants and all living things.
That means grieving too and learning that we all grieve, that it is painful but that we cope with it somehow and that we can be happy again despite that. Eventually.
That won't ease the pain for you at the moment because it's still very acute, and it's testament to how much you loved your dog. Let your grandchildren share in that a little; let them learn about supporting each other and showing and receiving comfort and love.
Bless you.
My heart goes out to you. Its unfortunate, but our beloved pets are here for a good time, not a long time. I'm sure he had a lovely life with you and your family x
Hugs to you gran, we lost our beloved billy 15th May last year and then rocky pined so much for him, we lost rocky in June. Devastating - both a good age tho 20 and 16 respectively. Your pets Always have place in your heart. Thinking of you xxx
Lucky never got over losing tess our gs, he became very clingy after his grieving period .he would go lay on her grave .he knew I'm sure what was happening to her when she was ill .he never left her side.
I understand what your going through. I'm a huge Animal lover and have lost many pets over the years... I remember each and every one, even today. Some losses have been very hard to deal with and took a long time to feel at some level of ease.
When I was little I would chose a nice spot in the garden and my step-dad would dig a hole there, even if it meant lifting a plant (my mam never minded), and I'd put them in. I seemed to come up with the idea of going out and finding 'pretty stones' and I'd put them in those spots where they lay. It did make me feel better and while I was out "gardening" (I was just young, so that word is used loosely) I'd always go around and visit them all, making sure their special plant and pretty stones were looking good.
As I got older I got into keeping special photos, and these days I keep some in little albums and have others in frames.
There are some things I will always associate with some pets, especially plants. My first ever pet was a Hamster called Daisy, and when she died it was understandably hard for me because I was very young then, I'd never experienced that before. So that's when me and my mam started growing Sunflowers every year. Because they were giant Daisies : )
I have tete-a-tete Daffs that also have a deep meaning for me because, strange as it may seem, they're associated with a Royal Python I had who died as a baby. He was a sick boy who used to love to sleep down my bra (yes, really)... it calmed him and helped his breathing. When he died it was in July... a week later those little Daffs came up and flowered for the second time that year. I've never had that happen before or since and I always think it was him that did that. So I have lots of them now and they always make me smile : )
Maybe you could all chose a special plant to place in the garden or a special place like where he liked to be walked? Something you can visit and hopefully make you smile too.
Sending hugs granma x