Well, you may all think me wrong for saying this, but I think that you should try building bridges - you may be next door to this person for a long time and disputes with neighbours can be really horrid. Here is what I would try - and no sarcasm or spite under the honeyed words!
1 Tell him/her you are sorry the hedge got overgrown and offer to cut it and clear it up yourself next time.
2 If you are both out in your gardens at the same time, call hello in a friendly way or ask a simple question like 'Did last night's storm cause you any problems?'
3 Ask if he or she would like to have a couple of your spare seedlings.
If none of this helps you will just have to go on resenting each other, but people have all sorts of problems that make them suspicious of new faces, which can sometimes be overcome with a few kind words. God knows, there's enough fighting in the world already.
all good advice. thankfully we only are neighbours for a small part of the garden, the end of her garden backs onto the side of ours down the far end. In two years of being in my garden we've never been out at the same time. She tends to go out at beginning or end of day. Will hold off lynching her. thanks for the advice.
She sounds like she has issues in her life than are being manifested by her behavour to you and the state of her garden. You should therefore not take it personally.
I would put up a solid fence then an evergreen hedge and then forget about her and that garden.
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Well, you may all think me wrong for saying this, but I think that you should try building bridges - you may be next door to this person for a long time and disputes with neighbours can be really horrid. Here is what I would try - and no sarcasm or spite under the honeyed words!
1 Tell him/her you are sorry the hedge got overgrown and offer to cut it and clear it up yourself next time.
2 If you are both out in your gardens at the same time, call hello in a friendly way or ask a simple question like 'Did last night's storm cause you any problems?'
3 Ask if he or she would like to have a couple of your spare seedlings.
If none of this helps you will just have to go on resenting each other, but people have all sorts of problems that make them suspicious of new faces, which can sometimes be overcome with a few kind words. God knows, there's enough fighting in the world already.
Sorry Frank Davidson. I missed your post, but that too is my understanding of the current law.
all good advice. thankfully we only are neighbours for a small part of the garden, the end of her garden backs onto the side of ours down the far end. In two years of being in my garden we've never been out at the same time. She tends to go out at beginning or end of day. Will hold off lynching her. thanks for the advice.
She sounds like she has issues in her life than are being manifested by her behavour to you and the state of her garden. You should therefore not take it personally.
I would put up a solid fence then an evergreen hedge and then forget about her and that garden.