We do indeed Baywood. Don't know how these people sleep at night. I hope the clematis survives - it's a well established one so fingers crossed it will have survived. Perhaps the weedkiller won't have penetrated far enough and the currant might have deflected some of it too. Good luck.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Baywood, I can really sympathize with you as I have the same problem and the police did not help at all.
I was reluctant to react but snapped when it got worse. I knocked on their door and calmly said that I had witnesses and proof about their behaviour and have alerted the police too. They denied it all and told me that "I was hallucinating as I was a lonely old hag and made racist remarks.....".I replied by saying that they were weak bullies and that if they carried on I will "go further...." and then, despite their ranting, walked away. I must say, I was terrified but at my wits end. But, it seems to have worked and they have left me alone for a few months.
Unfortunately, despite what people say about "the law etc." it is best to avoid a confrontation as people like them never change. So maybe you could cut the plant down and try saving it by watering it copiously and see if it will shoot up again. If it does, keep it in control and do not give them a chance to aggravate the situation. Failing that, leave the area bare and see if it helps. Good luck.
Thank you for all you replies, sometimes it nice to see that i am not the only one suffering. Fortunately our local policeman is very good and is awaiting his chance! she is known for her sly and devious ways, and is very good and it, but give her enough rope, as the saying goes, just gets a bit frustrating waiting for it. I have cut back more damaged stuff this morning, but short of putting and umberella over it(haha) i cant stop her throwing more from her window. definately looking at CCTV , and the clematis will be nurtured and fed and watered to try and keep it going.
So depressing jatnik but well done for standing up to these horrid people despite the abuse you got. I hope they leave you alone from now on. I think it comes down to how fortunate you are in terms of how much notice the authorities will take with this sort of problem. It can make people's lives a misery and make them feel like prisoners in their own homes.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Just like we have for the last few years, they have such an impact on your life, you try to take refuge in your garden and they try to destroy that too!
Baywood, she sounds like someone who has the whole neighbourhood annoyed at her, so hopefully there is some solace for you in being able to let off steam to other neighbours. At least in that situation you know it is clear to absolutely everyone that you are not the cause of the problem, and not even 50% of it. She sounds like she has mental health issues - and from my experience, quite probably a personality disorder. Estimates suggest that somewhere between one in ten, and one in twenty people have these - they are very common, and the one trait that all the disorders share is that the people who have them cannot properly empathise with others, and therefore see anyone else's point of view other than their own. They have disordered relationships with everyone they meet, and there is no cure. But they can function in 'normal life' well enough and there is no treatment for it, so most of them are undiagnosed. Once you understand what these are, and read up about them, the strange and selfish behaviour of certain people in your life suddenly makes sense, and in my case, I have given people like that a wide berth. Hard when it's a neighbour though.
Yes, got it in one to all of the above. we try to be left alone, and for a while its ok, then she gets bored so trys to do something else for a bit of attention seeking. We have a very long list! Thanks for everyones support
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We do indeed Baywood. Don't know how these people sleep at night. I hope the clematis survives - it's a well established one so fingers crossed it will have survived. Perhaps the weedkiller won't have penetrated far enough and the currant might have deflected some of it too. Good luck.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Baywood, I can really sympathize with you as I have the same problem and the police did not help at all.
I was reluctant to react but snapped when it got worse. I knocked on their door and calmly said that I had witnesses and proof about their behaviour and have alerted the police too. They denied it all and told me that "I was hallucinating as I was a lonely old hag and made racist remarks.....".I replied by saying that they were weak bullies and that if they carried on I will "go further...." and then, despite their ranting, walked away. I must say, I was terrified but at my wits end. But, it seems to have worked and they have left me alone for a few months.
Unfortunately, despite what people say about "the law etc." it is best to avoid a confrontation as people like them never change. So maybe you could cut the plant down and try saving it by watering it copiously and see if it will shoot up again. If it does, keep it in control and do not give them a chance to aggravate the situation. Failing that, leave the area bare and see if it helps. Good luck.
Thank you for all you replies, sometimes it nice to see that i am not the only one suffering. Fortunately our local policeman is very good and is awaiting his chance! she is known for her sly and devious ways, and is very good and it, but give her enough rope, as the saying goes, just gets a bit frustrating waiting for it. I have cut back more damaged stuff this morning, but short of putting and umberella over it(haha) i cant stop her throwing more from her window. definately looking at CCTV , and the clematis will be nurtured and fed and watered to try and keep it going.
So depressing jatnik but well done for standing up to these horrid people despite the abuse you got. I hope they leave you alone from now on. I think it comes down to how fortunate you are in terms of how much notice the authorities will take with this sort of problem. It can make people's lives a misery and make them feel like prisoners in their own homes.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Just like we have for the last few years, they have such an impact on your life, you try to take refuge in your garden and they try to destroy that too!
Baywood, she sounds like someone who has the whole neighbourhood annoyed at her, so hopefully there is some solace for you in being able to let off steam to other neighbours. At least in that situation you know it is clear to absolutely everyone that you are not the cause of the problem, and not even 50% of it. She sounds like she has mental health issues - and from my experience, quite probably a personality disorder. Estimates suggest that somewhere between one in ten, and one in twenty people have these - they are very common, and the one trait that all the disorders share is that the people who have them cannot properly empathise with others, and therefore see anyone else's point of view other than their own. They have disordered relationships with everyone they meet, and there is no cure. But they can function in 'normal life' well enough and there is no treatment for it, so most of them are undiagnosed. Once you understand what these are, and read up about them, the strange and selfish behaviour of certain people in your life suddenly makes sense, and in my case, I have given people like that a wide berth. Hard when it's a neighbour though.
Yes, got it in one to all of the above. we try to be left alone, and for a while its ok, then she gets bored so trys to do something else for a bit of attention seeking. We have a very long list! Thanks for everyones support
Sorry to hear your story Baywood. Just out of interest in terms of how your clematis might hopefully re-grow, where in the country are you ?
we are in the midlands, quite heavy clay, slightly alkaline
I just wondered about how much rain you'd had after poisoning episode.