Clari, I didn't know anything at all really except that you had been knocked off your bike. I didn't know what to say earlier really, as I was crying too. As Kef said nothing we can say puts things right, but sending best wishes and hugs xx
Fidget - they didn't. He even got a new car from his insurance as I wrote his off.
Scroggin - my first car was 1964 Vauxhall Whose steering wheel lacked a crumple zone meaning it would push you through your seat ribs or no ribs. It taught me to be very aware of my stopping distances.
It was me Fidget, on another thread I think when someone mentioned they had been burgled. I know you shouldn't really laugh/smile at people's misfortunes, but I'll make an exception in this occasion
Clari you have just made my blood boil, It's been nearly thirty years since my mother died and I would never be so rude as to be disrespectful to anyone in a wheel chair.
What has happened to you was just so preventable.
Very different circumstances but she was wheel chair bound not through a car accident but through illness. Her speech began to fail before finally she could only communicate by actions. Even now I get so angry if people speak to the person pushing a wheel chair, like the person in the chair doesn't exist or people can be really patronising, I can't get my head around that.
I have fond memories of being allowed to play on my mothers wheel chair.
One game was an obstacle course, if we were good she would let us play the game which was to get from the front door to the back in the quickest time but time points were added if you knocked a wall or door which had to be opened whilst you were sitting down in the wheeel chair. To make it harder there would be obstacles put in the way and if your feet touched the floor that incurred more time points.
I remember popping mothers tyres when unsupervised we put drawing pins down as the obstacle .
Zoomer; you'd be amazed how quickly children learn that disability is a bad thing from their parents and learn that you shouldn't talk to a disabled person. Just think how many times a young child wants to know WHY is that woman fat? WHY is that person is black WHY do they have a wheelchair? Yes normally they choose their loudest voice to ask waiting for the one time the shop is quiet but I've seen kids dragged away and really told off because they simply wanted to know if my feet were poorly. No wonder you become reluctant to talk to disabled people if you never get the chance to try when you're little!
Chicky- tgge alternative didn't sound like much fun. I'm not brave or special we'd all do the same!
Clari ((hugs)) Way back I worked for a while as a PA for a young woman who'd had an accident resulting in similar outcome - hit by a speeding police car whilst crossing the road - two weeks after her wedding. Apart from the physical disabilities she was left with the severe head injuries resulted in quite radical personality changes. So difficult for them both.
Also one of my dearest friends (first boyfriend) had a severe spinal injury as an adult - the progress he's made is remarkable but the devastation wreaked by a few minutes fun on a bouncy castle .................... so tragic.
My last job involved assisting in the assessment and arranging of support and respite for children and young people with severe disabilities and life-limiting conditions - the unthinking unkindness of adults no longer surprises me.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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Clari, I didn't know anything at all really except that you had been knocked off your bike. I didn't know what to say earlier really, as I was crying too. As Kef said nothing we can say puts things right, but sending best wishes and hugs xx
Scroggin - my first car was 1964 Vauxhall Whose steering wheel lacked a crumple zone meaning it would push you through your seat ribs or no ribs. It taught me to be very aware of my stopping distances.
Didn't know whether to put this on here or on the laugh thread.
Did someone say something about Karma.?
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/ireland/10739277/Device-exploded-in-bombers-face-after-he-forgot-about-clocks-changing.html
I bet this one doesn't get a new car out of it.
It was me Fidget, on another thread I think when someone mentioned they had been burgled. I know you shouldn't really laugh/smile at people's misfortunes, but I'll make an exception in this occasion
Is there a laugh thread? Must have missed that.
I really do believe in the saying...... in what goes around....comes around...
Clari you have just made my blood boil, It's been nearly thirty years since my mother died and I would never be so rude as to be disrespectful to anyone in a wheel chair.
What has happened to you was just so preventable.
Very different circumstances but she was wheel chair bound not through a car accident but through illness. Her speech began to fail before finally she could only communicate by actions. Even now I get so angry if people speak to the person pushing a wheel chair, like the person in the chair doesn't exist or people can be really patronising, I can't get my head around that.
I have fond memories of being allowed to play on my mothers wheel chair.
One game was an obstacle course, if we were good she would let us play the game which was to get from the front door to the back in the quickest time but time points were added if you knocked a wall or door which had to be opened whilst you were sitting down in the wheeel chair. To make it harder there would be obstacles put in the way and if your feet touched the floor that incurred more time points.
I remember popping mothers tyres when unsupervised we put drawing pins down as the obstacle
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Only just read this thread Clari - you are one very brave and determined soldier
Zoomer; you'd be amazed how quickly children learn that disability is a bad thing from their parents and learn that you shouldn't talk to a disabled person. Just think how many times a young child wants to know WHY is that woman fat? WHY is that person is black WHY do they have a wheelchair? Yes normally they choose their loudest voice to ask waiting for the one time the shop is quiet but I've seen kids dragged away and really told off because they simply wanted to know if my feet were poorly. No wonder you become reluctant to talk to disabled people if you never get the chance to try when you're little!
Chicky- tgge alternative didn't sound like much fun. I'm not brave or special we'd all do the same!
Clari ((hugs)) Way back I worked for a while as a PA for a young woman who'd had an accident resulting in similar outcome - hit by a speeding police car whilst crossing the road - two weeks after her wedding. Apart from the physical disabilities she was left with the severe head injuries resulted in quite radical personality changes. So difficult for them both.
Also one of my dearest friends (first boyfriend) had a severe spinal injury as an adult - the progress he's made is remarkable but the devastation wreaked by a few minutes fun on a bouncy castle .................... so tragic.
My last job involved assisting in the assessment and arranging of support and respite for children and young people with severe disabilities and life-limiting conditions - the unthinking unkindness of adults no longer surprises me.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
PUT YOUR FLAMING LIGHTS ON IN THE FOG YOU MUPPETS!!!!!! That's all and that feels better now, thank you