You neighbours shouldn't be cutting your hedge back at all, apart from any which is overhanging their property. There is nothing you can do to force them to cut their hedge back to the same height as yours though.
I'm assuming in all this that there are 2 hedges, one growing in your garden and one in theirs.
There hedge in the front of our houses is like the tall back view one on your picture which has leaves growing everywhere which looks untidy he cut mine shorter than his so mine looks like the bottom one and its all in one strip so looks ugly
As others have already said Joyce, you can't control the situation so allowing it to get to you, as it clearly is, will not do your health any good, let alone the hedge.
You really do only seem to have limited options.
1) Allow your hedge to grow to the same height as your neighbours. You can at least then keep your side and much of the top tidy.
2)Keep you hedge at the level you want it and accept that your neighbour is absolutely within his/her rights to have their hedge at a different height and as scruffy as they want. You can trim back any of their hedge which encroaches on your garden but only that part.
I understand that you don't want a hedge stopping you looking out the window but you cannot force your neighbour to design their garden to suit your requirements.
Joyce do I take it that your hedge is along the front of your house, and the neighbour's hedge is along the front of their house? If so then they really are two separate hedges - you can't expect them to be the same.
Do you paint and decorate your house to match theirs? Of course you don't, any more than your garden planting matches theirs.
They are two different properties - you cannot control what your neighbours do - enjoy your garden and enjoy the difference
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
the hedge is like the pale green one in your picture (all in one)
I had a reply from my neighbour saying I can get all the hedge cut how I want as they are thinking of moving as this will be to expensive for me todo I will wait for the landlord to cut it
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KT53
I am back to my first problem as next door wants there adjoining hedge higher than mine which looks stupid as they cut it like that the last time
You neighbours shouldn't be cutting your hedge back at all, apart from any which is overhanging their property. There is nothing you can do to force them to cut their hedge back to the same height as yours though.
I'm assuming in all this that there are 2 hedges, one growing in your garden and one in theirs.
A double hedge can look very attractive
I think sometimes you just have to go with the flow
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
dovefromabove
There hedge in the front of our houses is like the tall back view one on your picture which has leaves growing everywhere which looks untidy he cut mine shorter than his so mine looks like the bottom one and its all in one strip so looks ugly
Just what I was thinking, Verdun!
Verdum
I dont want my hedge to stop me looking out of my kichen window
as they do for there front room
As others have already said Joyce, you can't control the situation so allowing it to get to you, as it clearly is, will not do your health any good, let alone the hedge.
You really do only seem to have limited options.
1) Allow your hedge to grow to the same height as your neighbours. You can at least then keep your side and much of the top tidy.
2)Keep you hedge at the level you want it and accept that your neighbour is absolutely within his/her rights to have their hedge at a different height and as scruffy as they want. You can trim back any of their hedge which encroaches on your garden but only that part.
I understand that you don't want a hedge stopping you looking out the window but you cannot force your neighbour to design their garden to suit your requirements.
Joyce do I take it that your hedge is along the front of your house, and the neighbour's hedge is along the front of their house? If so then they really are two separate hedges - you can't expect them to be the same.
Do you paint and decorate your house to match theirs? Of course you don't, any more than your garden planting matches theirs.
They are two different properties - you cannot control what your neighbours do - enjoy your garden and enjoy the difference
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
dovefromabove
the hedge is like the pale green one in your picture (all in one)
I had a reply from my neighbour saying I can get all the hedge cut how I want as they are thinking of moving as this will be to expensive for me todo I will wait for the landlord to cut it
Thank you all for the advice
joyce