Final Confession

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• ViewAhead Posts: 866

  15 March

  @steveTu, are you coming with us? 🙂  

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• Fairygirl Posts: 55,117

  15 March

  Just join the other one @steveTu 
  I don't think many people will last here until next week. 

  It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
  
  
  
  I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...

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• steveTu Posts: 3,219

  15 March

  I think I've been a recluse tooooooo long and I'm not sure that this forum hasn't contributed to that. This place was an electronic prop - and I know you're all real people - but you're Magritte's pipe. I think I need to mix with real humans again - scary thought - will they appreciate my humour and views.

  
  

  I hate modern 'online', 'instant' culture (and my life has been tech, so I'm not a luddite) - and I don't want to spend all my time on a keyboard, let alone a phone touch screen. I wonder if evolution will give us bigger thumbs - or in my case, if my descendants will have short stubby forefingers from all that one finger typing?
  

  UK - South Coast Retirement Campus (East)
  

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• B3 Posts: 27,505

  15 March

  We need smaller narrower thumbs

  In London. Keen but lazy.

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• WonkyWomble Posts: 4,541

  15 March

  I've enjoyed your posts @steveTu.... I'm not somone that just swallows the party line and I like to consider alternative perspectives..... Like you, other than work I don't have a social life but prefer it that way given the local options. When I get a free moment I will sign up to the other forum but can't see it being as prominent in my day as this one has been. Maybe just sign up to keep in touch with folks occasionally?
  Best wishes to you anyway!

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• Dovefromabove Posts: 88,147

  15 March

  @steveTu … I agree that it’s not good to spend all your social life online if you have other options, but gardening forums can be a way of meeting real people … I’ve met @Hostafan, @Busy-Lizzie, @Topbird, @Lizzie27, @didyw, @nutcutlet and several others IN REAL LIFE … several have become real life friends and we’ve met and visited several gardens together  …. there’s probably other forum members in your locality … give it a try …
  
  

  
  Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• Beastie29 Posts: 55

  15 March

  Well in the short time I've been around here Steve, I've enjoyed your posts, for what it's worth.  I like the way your mind ticks.
  I think the only people you might have inadvertently offended are the sort who are inclined strongly towards taking offence anyway, and then lash out without realising what fools they make of themselves.  Sensitive souls.
  All the very best for your forum-free-future, and here's to faster fingers!
  Take good care of yourself, it's been a pleasure.

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• steveTu Posts: 3,219

  15 March

  @Beastie29
  

  But we're all different aren't we?...and we have different thresholds and on a forum you never really get to know where other people's lines are. It's not the same as seeing how people react - seeing their expression.

  We were writing software for BT once (they were launching a product called OPD - One Per Desk ) and they had call centre training manuals that I skimmed through - one of the first things in the manual was '...talk with a smile on your face...'. I try to do that when posting - I post with a smile (even though I don't use emojis to show it!)... You can discuss serious issues still with that smile.

  
  

  I've just realised (subliminally) why I started this thread - I watched the TV prog (on Britbox - another service that is going) called 'A Confession' with Martin Freeman. A true story of multiple murders in Swindon and the injustice of what happened. How cause and effect works eh?

  
  

  Another wandering , six degrees type post....
  

  
  

  UK - South Coast Retirement Campus (East)
  

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• ViewAhead Posts: 866

  15 March

  @steveTu, now listen!  *takes firm line*  You can belong to a forum without committing to 24/7 attendance. 😉  Sleep and meal breaks are allowed, as are periods of no posting, just lurking, switching away altogether, sunbathing outside in the altogether (if this rain ever stops).  😁
  
  There's always the potential with typed communication to step on someone's toes or press their buttons without meaning to, but for the most part, people accept that as part of the deal.  And, anyway, as this week shows, it can all be very ephemeral.  Today's misunderstanding, tomorrow's cyberspace junk, invisible, gone if not entirely forgotten.
  
  By being a forum member, you will leave an impact on some people and some people (not necessarily the same ones) will leave an impact on you.  Much of it may be positive, some of it won't.  But that is the same with all human contact, real or virtual. 

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• AnniD Posts: 12,585

  15 March

  What @ViewAhead said. I freely admit to spending more time on this forum than l should have done, but l strongly feel the benefits outweigh any downside.
  If you have the means and determination, just limit yourself to say, 10 minutes in the morning. Set an alarm on your phone.
  
  Of course it's entirely up to you @steveTu, but l think the world could do with your take on it.
  
  
  PS If Steve is going to sunbathe outside in the altogether, l'd appreciate a warning. You can draw your own conclusions as to what l mean 😁.
  
  
  

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