Personally my extended family can all go swing as far as I'm concerned! My actual close family are so permanently in my heart I could charge rent! But I wouldn't....🤗 My husband and I are very different with very different interests. We do not impose ourselves upon each other. In fact we have an exclusion zone rule that state we shall not communicate in the morning for half an hour other than saying morning darling. This also applies to the half an hour when in from work. This way we don't take our stress of the day out on each other. We have separate entertainment rooms and don't force the other to get into our interests. It seems to work well... Six arguments in 23 years.... Not bad 👍 So glad I'm not dating now.... Think I'd be a mad cat lady!! 🤣
I've had six arguments since this thread started I like the no talking before the coffee kicks in rule. It's a hard one to explain to small children sadly.
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
Monogamy and no incest for me, whether hereo or same sex couples. Anything else is just too tiring.
Managing life with one significant other requires so much give and take to find a balance that allows each to have their own space and interests yet support each other, enjoy joint interests and each other's company as needed.
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"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
I was reading an article today about a bloke in America who apparently had 20 wives, including his own 12 year old daughter! He is now under arrest.
Unfortunately I read a bit more of the article. He's a pastor in an offshoot of the Mormon church, but he was considered too extreme even for them. He said that God had ordered him to give the 'virtue' of his 3 daughters, the youngest just 12 years old, to 3 men whilst he stood and watched.
What sort of sicko can do something like that. He needs locking up and the key throwing away.
Yes of course. But what do we as a society want to law to allow, or not to?
Hmm well in our culture, marriage is understood to be a pairing, and that's the relationship format people seem to gravitate to. Extending that to same sex couples doesn't lead to changing the fundamental idea that it's a partnership of two people, making their life together, with having kids an entirely optional aspect of that.
Polygamy isn't something we're culturally used to in Britain. It happens a lot in other parts of the world. Usually in cultures that take a very dim view of same sex unions, coincidentally.
"What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour".
Hmm well in our culture, marriage is understood to be a pairing, and that's the relationship format people seem to gravitate to.
Yes, for now this is still the case.
Loxley said: Extending that to same sex couples doesn't lead to changing the fundamental idea that it's a partnership of two people
It has not lead there yet.
I don't advocate for society to freeze in time and never evolve. But once we break barriers, then I find the argument "it should not happen because we're not culturally used" hard to defend long term. We were not culturally used to pre-nuptial cohabiting either. Or people marrying a person of their choice, not their parents choice.
Not advocating either way. Just confused. Hope I'm not offending anyone, certainly not my intention.
It strikes me you are uncomfortable with same sex couples and using the slippery slope argument to justify it to yourself. Not offended in the least, but I do wish you would at least be honest.
"What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbour".
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My husband and I are very different with very different interests. We do not impose ourselves upon each other. In fact we have an exclusion zone rule that state we shall not communicate in the morning for half an hour other than saying morning darling. This also applies to the half an hour when in from work. This way we don't take our stress of the day out on each other.
We have separate entertainment rooms and don't force the other to get into our interests. It seems to work well... Six arguments in 23 years.... Not bad 👍
So glad I'm not dating now.... Think I'd be a mad cat lady!! 🤣
Managing life with one significant other requires so much give and take to find a balance that allows each to have their own space and interests yet support each other, enjoy joint interests and each other's company as needed.
Polygamy isn't something we're culturally used to in Britain. It happens a lot in other parts of the world. Usually in cultures that take a very dim view of same sex unions, coincidentally.
I don't advocate for society to freeze in time and never evolve. But once we break barriers, then I find the argument "it should not happen because we're not culturally used" hard to defend long term. We were not culturally used to pre-nuptial cohabiting either. Or people marrying a person of their choice, not their parents choice.
Not advocating either way. Just confused. Hope I'm not offending anyone, certainly not my intention.
I don't like the sound of it, but if it works for them, then its none of my business.
Some people seem to have open marriages, that work for them, again none of my business.
When you don't even know who's in the team
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