To be honest that's all I think you (I) could ask. 👍 I suppose it's about being more communicative and neighbourly. I think if it's possible get the text numbers if neighbours and let them know if you plan a night of fire, not to ask permission (you don't need it if course) but to give them a chance to get their windows closed and washing in.🙂 I do think it should be done in a fair way though. Every weekend or even worse every night would get annoying to me rather quickly.
It’s more like once every 6 weeks or so as I am not usually one for staying up late, more likely if we have visitors so not at all last year. Planning a few things later this year so will bear that in mind.
When I lived in a rural village a bbq was a communal affair ... even if we were inviting family and friends from further away, we would also invite neighbours, and many would come along bringing salads, garlic bread, sausages and meat and veg to roast ... lots of juice etc for the youngsters and some jugs of beer from the pub.
We’d sit in the garden and chat with family, friends and neighbours ... later in the day someone would get out their guitar or accordion and we’d have a sing around the dying embers. Eventually it’d be too dark to sit outside or the mozzies would attack and we’d clear things away, ensure the charcoal embers were safe to leave and folk would go home to bed, done taking a detour via the village pub.
It didn’t upset anyone because everyone was involved.
Nowadays BBQs etc are often in small gardens surrounded by the homes of people you don’t really know and who aren’t involved ... so when smoke and smells and noise impact on your quiet enjoyment of your own space it feels like an invasion ... as if something is being done with no care or thought about how it affects people around them .., instead of being a friendly social event it feels like antisocial behaviour ...
I don’t know how we can overcome that 😞
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Hi, we have just invested in a smokeless fire pit. They are designed to pull back the smoke before it Leaves the pit and burn it again. Much less smoke and smell. Works well and you can cook on top.
No immediate neighbours in our last house but I did once ask a farmer if he wouldn't mind relocating the midden heap he'd started dumping in a field across the road as we were downwind and the smell was awful and the flies increased in the house. He was happy to oblige.
In this house our immediate neighbours have 3 daughters in the early 20s so when they were all home from studies and jobs in our first summer they had a big party with all their friends and came and warned us there may be a bit of noise. There wasn't.
Last year, between lockdowns, a young couple moved into their new build a couple of hundred yards away and left a note to introduce themselves and warn us they were having a house-warming party so there might be a bit of noise from cars. We have since become friends and she stops for a chat when walking their tot in his pram. I take them spare eggs every couple of weeks.
It doesn't take much to make a contact and be friendly.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
When I read of others’ tribulations, I can’t believe how lucky am I am where I live. There are three houses within shouting distance of us. None of them has bonfires - but I would not mind if they did because I love the smell of wood smoke. One of the three has a barbecue about once or twice a month in the summer but it is just for the two of them so there is no accompanying party noises. For our part, we have a bonfire maybe three times a year but only on damp, grey days when people would be indoors anyway, a barbecue just a couple of times a year and when we do have parties all the neighbours get invited anyway.
Near us there are no screaming children, no noisy parties, no wind chimes, no intrusive garden lights, no barking dogs, no power-tool obsessed DIY enthusiasts and just the occasional cat that wanders through.
I'm pleased the intrusion on neighbours of fire pits etc is now being well discussed.
My main objective was to reach out to the garden designers on TV programmes who just have to add a fire pit and maybe a pizza oven in every garden they show on TV these days. No mention of if the neighbours like the second hand smoke and health factors, just all about so called garden design and 'fads'. Hopefully the 'fad' of a fire pit will end soon.
As you might guess, I can't stand the smell of smoke, nor having my windows shut when selfish people have fires (of any type) as smoke just does not stay in someones own garden. I totally get the other points people have made about noise etc, all intrusive. But, garden designers and their perpetual placing of a fire pit in their designs must stop.....think of something else....maybe a water feature would be 'on trend' instead. I live in hope and thanks to you all.
"Please will, so called, Garden Designers on ALL TV programmes stop using Fire Pits, Pizza Ovens etc. in their designs. "
Watching 'Your Garden Made Perfect' every single garden used fire features - ovens, gas ranges, firepits, fireplaces and chimneys. My guess is that this taking something like Chelsea's spec that main designers have to include a water features. It's 'modern' and 'funky'. In fact, it might well be completely beside the point and things that people are not going to use. Oh, all the unused gas bbqs in people's gardens.
Ok,bencotto,I am moving in! We live on the outskirts of a very old village, got sick to death of selfish neighbours,add all night parties,loud TV to your list, kids smashing up my plants,I insisted we were detached, not as far as I would like, unfortunately,and still plenty of inconsiderate neighbours.There was someone in the next road who played drums badly every afternoon, with the door open, also had a happy dog,must have moved
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I suppose it's about being more communicative and neighbourly. I think if it's possible get the text numbers if neighbours and let them know if you plan a night of fire, not to ask permission (you don't need it if course) but to give them a chance to get their windows closed and washing in.🙂
I do think it should be done in a fair way though. Every weekend or even worse every night would get annoying to me rather quickly.
It didn’t upset anyone because everyone was involved.
I don’t know how we can overcome that 😞
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
In this house our immediate neighbours have 3 daughters in the early 20s so when they were all home from studies and jobs in our first summer they had a big party with all their friends and came and warned us there may be a bit of noise. There wasn't.
Last year, between lockdowns, a young couple moved into their new build a couple of hundred yards away and left a note to introduce themselves and warn us they were having a house-warming party so there might be a bit of noise from cars. We have since become friends and she stops for a chat when walking their tot in his pram. I take them spare eggs every couple of weeks.
It doesn't take much to make a contact and be friendly.
Near us there are no screaming children, no noisy parties, no wind chimes, no intrusive garden lights, no barking dogs, no power-tool obsessed DIY enthusiasts and just the occasional cat that wanders through.