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Do you have good neighbours?

herbaceousherbaceous Posts: 2,318
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I suppose it must be human nature to speak out mostly when things aren't right, there are certainly very few positive news stories and the majority of posts here concern difficulty of one sort or another.

Not wanting to be in competition with the Reasons to be Cheerful thread (different context) but noticing that many suffer with thoughtless neighbours I wondered if we could redress the balance?

All my neighbours (and I have 9 households around my perimeter) suit me very well. Most are lovely, helpful and courteous, the odd one keeps themselves to themselves so no problem.  How about your neighbours?
"The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it."  Sir Terry Pratchett
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  • BigladBiglad Posts: 3,265
    2 out of 3 ain't bad!
    East Lancs
  • Busy-LizzieBusy-Lizzie Posts: 24,043
    We have lovely neighbours in Norfolk and no neighbours in France.
    Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
  • herbaceousherbaceous Posts: 2,318
    I noticed on another thread you might be moving @Busy-Lizzie?  So will that mean you will be the new neighbour? I wish you all the best for the move  :) 
    "The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it."  Sir Terry Pratchett
  • SydRoySydRoy Posts: 167
    Hmm..I'm fairly indifferent in terms of how I view my relationship with my neighbours. They're ok..I don't have a real problem with any of them. Some are more engaging than others and they occasionally do things that irritate me slightly but I'm sure I do in return. I'm cautious not to judge based on one's own standards..but of course I do more often than I should.
    Just fortunate we have no horror stories that you read of sometimes.
  • Busy-LizzieBusy-Lizzie Posts: 24,043
    Thank you @herbaceous. I am downsizing in France, new house is very pretty and has neighbours, but not that close. House I'm selling is very big and isolated, too much for me now. OH has his house in Norfolk, both widowed, 2nd timers so that's why I'm Dordogne and Norfolk. His family is in the UK and mine are in France.
    Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
  • SkandiSkandi Posts: 1,723
    My previous house had 2 neighbours, one pair were great helpful etc. the other one was a recluse so no issues there. This house has 5 houses, one empty old village hall, A pig farm and 2 fields owned by the someone else person. three of the houses contain friendly people only one do I often talk to and they are helpful. the fourth house I have never seen the owner I just know it used to be a slaughter house and is sometimes used for that as my dog has brought bits back! and I have never seen the owner of the 5th house either. The empty village hall is falling down, fortunately it's the other side of my barn so I cannot see it. A pig farm is a pig farm, it's sometimes noisy and sometimes smelly but it doesn't try to park on my drive or play loud music! and well fields are fields, probably the best neighbours one can have.
    I will say that all of my actual neighbours are over 100m away from my house so noise issues are unlikely, it's more hedge cutting and access issues if there is anything. All in all I am quite happy with this lot, there is one in the village who has just moved in who revs his engines all day, I can only just hear them from where I am but I am glad I do not live closer!
  • gjautosgjautos Posts: 429
    Our immediate neighbour is great. We share plants as she is a keen gardener, and look after each others gardens during holidays etc. The other side keeps himself to himself which is fine by me. We sometimes meet others in the road for a beer and natter too.
  • herbaceousherbaceous Posts: 2,318
    I lived next door to a pig farm as a child @Skandi and I loved it! Taking the peelings round to feed them, seeing the little piglets, it was priceless, not sure my parents were as happy! But it was a tied house so no choice for them, lovely for me  :D 
    "The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it."  Sir Terry Pratchett
  • BenCottoBenCotto Posts: 4,718
    I feel truly blessed in our community. There are nine houses in reasonably close proximity to us. Five of them are very friendly, chatty and helpful. They will share surplus garden produce, offer to do errands, look after pets at short notice etc. The other four hardly interact at all but create no problems so there is nothing to complain about.

    The village as a whole only has 200 inhabitants but you could not wish for a friendlier place. The village Facebook group is a great way of sharing information, offering or asking for help. The pub closed a few years ago but, on the last Friday of the month (Covid-permitting), the church acts as a pop up pub/café. A large group gathers, shooting the breeze. We have doctors, nurses, lawyers, vets, builders, bakers, farmers, academics, a nationally famous gardener and even an over-wintering circus so there’s no shortage of folk to turn to for advice and recommendations.
    Rutland, England
  • herbaceousherbaceous Posts: 2,318
    That sounds wonderful @BenCotto a proper community.  I don't think I fully appreciated the worth of a community when I was young (too many grown ups willing to rat on me to the parents) but it does make a difference to the way you live.

    Long may your village prosper  :) 
    "The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it."  Sir Terry Pratchett
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