Thanks so much everyone. Reassuring to see some members making similar suggestions, too.
Lyn, thanks for the tip about the wreath, I would never have considered the rust problem. I usually place wreaths on the grass and hold in place with a tent peg!
When my parents died I buried the ashes in the garden. They didn’t want churchyard or cemetery, they loved it here. Dad wanted a burial here but I couldn’t bring myself to do that. A step to far🙂
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Funnily enough, Lyn, I’m part of a bereavement group where a gentlemen buried his wife in their garden. I had no idea people could do this. I’ve often wondered what he would do if he ever wanted to move.
Yes, thanks for the wreath/rust suggestion Lyn. I sometimes do put a Christmas wreath on the grave, but would lay it flat as Frew 7 mentioned.
Our neighbour's ashes and that of his wife are in their garden - luckily the house wasn't sold but was taken on by one of their children. The funeral services were also held in the garden, which was appropriate for the man who was a keen gardener.
I agree Frew that you would feel duty bound to stay in the same house with the ashes in the garden, which isn't always possible as we age and living alone.
I put them in this garden because they wanted to be here, I don’t mind moving and leaving them, it’s only ash, they will always be with me where it counts. you can bury in the garden if you want to but it has to go down on your deeds should you come to sell it. And you have to disclose it to the prospective buyers.
An undertaker, if you choose to use one, will advise how to go about it.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
you could always put the ashes in a large pot and plant it up, my aunt-in-law is in a pot with a climbing rose, she's moved house three times since she died 5 years ago, i'm sure she'd find that hilarious as she only moved once while she was alive!
Your post made me laugh treehugger - that is an awful lot of moving you have done - I guess you could say/sing that your aunt in law is "all shook up".
I certainly wouldn't want to buy a human body in the garden lamweedy, ashes yes.
We do have a couple of pet cats buried here and we had my dog buried in my parents garden, it certainly helped to know they were laid to rest in the place where they spent the most time, bless them.
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Lyn, thanks for the tip about the wreath, I would never have considered the rust problem. I usually place wreaths on the grass and hold in place with a tent peg!
Dad wanted a burial here but I couldn’t bring myself to do that. A step to far🙂
Funnily enough, Lyn, I’m part of a bereavement group where a gentlemen buried his wife in their garden. I had no idea people could do this. I’ve often wondered what he would do if he ever wanted to move.
you can bury in the garden if you want to but it has to go down on your deeds should you come to sell it. And you have to disclose it to the prospective buyers.
An undertaker, if you choose to use one, will advise how to go about it.
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